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4.0 out of 5 stars He forgot one big tactic, December 12, 2001
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This review is from: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People (Paperback)
This was one of the best books on the topic I have read so far. Simon does a very effective job in bringing to light what is actually (covertly) happening to you WHILE its happenning in an easy-to-see manner. Good for identifying and dealing with the behavior in the future.
This is a very good book for covert-manipulation when done TO you.
However, the author forgot to include tactics for when the behavior takes place THROUGH the victim. This treatment is somewhat more complex and very difficult to deal with since the ultimate victim has no control of what is happening around her/him. "Triangle" manipulation is very prevalent among in-laws and extended families where the offspring is told to 'tell' another person this or that to get someone else in the family to behave in a certain way. It's important to understand why it goes unnoticed by the victims.
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Initial post: May 13, 2009 5:09:10 AM PDT
Thanks for your review. This is exactly what is happening to me. Another parent at my child's school manipulates a 3rd parent into initiating conflicts with me. The manipulated person obviously has no idea what is going on. I have some clue but can't seem to escape because of the implied threat of social retaliation against my daughter if a don't maintain a relationship. Reading these reviews I am realizing it's not me that's crazy. Thanks for describing it so well - at least I can put a name to it now.

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Posted on Oct 22, 2011 6:41:59 AM PDT
Bronte says:
Excellent point & post. It may call for a full book of its own. I have experienced (and seen) Triangular manipulation ( I may call it Triangle Intimidation though) which is lead by a CA. It could also be termed Gang Mentality.
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