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This review is from: Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work (Hardcover)
The tendency is to read a book like Snakes In Suits AFTER you've had a close encounter of the psychopathic kind - sort of in the spirit of a post-mortem. The ideal would be for everyone to read books like this one BEFORE the excellent advice offered is actually needed. Even I, sister of a clinical psychologist, mother of a psychology major, myself a former medical student and amateur student of deviant personalities, got well and truly tagged and only just now relieved myself of the stress and heartache and monetary loss of a psychopathic employee.
Part of the reason the victims of psychopaths don't recognize or appreciate their imminent danger is that when we think of psychopaths we visualize a knife-wielder with neutron eyes. In most cases, nothing could be farther from the truth. These people often give the appearance of being attractive, funny, intense and sincere, religious, efficient, enthusiastic, and in possesion of a particularly well-defined moral code. All these things are the accoutrements that enable them to appear to be what we want them to be, and to hide what isn't there: a conscience, affection, empathy, and an acknowledgement of the rights of other human beings.
I think we've heard it all before; what we need to do is BELIEVE it. Read the book. Don't engage in a witch hunt, but learn what to look for. Keep your distance until you have lost all doubt about the agenda of someone you have recently met, no matter the circumstances of the meeting. Learn how to disengage yourself from one of them if you do get involved (think of being wound all around tight with barbed wire) and remember that nothing they have to offer can ever make up for what they will take from you.
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Initial post: Apr 8, 2011 2:47:56 AM PDT
A. D. Hill says:
I really appreciate your review! Especially: "remember that nothing they have to offer can ever make up for what they will take from you." That's always the hook that seems like the answer to long-standing problems, whether in an organization or relationship. People tend to get weary from the reality of real problem solving day in and day out, so wishful thinking kicks in which makes it easy for victims unknowingly collude with them. I think it's what gives them an almost magical quality, too.
In reply to an earlier post on Jul 7, 2011 6:02:05 PM PDT
Excellent review. It shows how insidious they are with their fictitious "loveable" personalities which they act like they were Dame Judi Dench. I really liked your review.
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