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How to Identify a Deal Breaker,
This review is from: Relationships For Dummies (Paperback)
I read this a few years back, when I was struggling through relational upheaval. The book has a chart on essential qualities in a partner (honesty, sanity, loyalty, etc.); things that are nice to have; and things that don't really matter much (some of which were quite surprising). The associated text also explains why it is unlikely that someone missing an essential quality will magically develop it because you're there now.
This chart is the best tool I've seen for identifying a deal-breaker (and it only takes ONE). It has helped me immeasurably, and has been a reality check for a few friends as well. I consider this essential information to help everyone recognize danger signs in a carefully crafted "demo" before it's too late.
Anyway, this chart alone has doubled my confidence in identifying healthy relationship potential. I felt stupid for buying and reading a book called Relationships for Dummies, but I had finally accepted that I was profoundly retarded in this area, so it seemed appropriate. Turns out it was.
There was other good and helpful information, but the chart was a life-changer for me.