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5.0 out of 5 stars Planting the seeds of lifelong success, February 24, 2014
This review is from: How Toddlers Thrive: What Parents Can Do Today for Children Ages 2-5 to Plant the Seeds of Lifelong Success (Hardcover)
A great start. That what this author is asking us to create for our toddlers. But, how to you create a great start for your child?

The author, a psychologist and head of a research center and nursery school argues that you must must first understand how the brain of a toddler works so that you can help him or her thrive on her terms. This is different than the instincts of most parents, and many books, where you hope to learn how to make kids listen. And, it's different than controlling kids' 'childish' or 'self-centered' whims or shaming them into following our rules.

When you're thinking about some common parenting challenge, like getting 2-4 year-olds to share, you need to learn what the experts know about toddler's brains and incorporate that knowledge into what she calls your 'Parenting POV.' Then you you can re-frame the problem both in your mind and during your time with your child. You are freed to stop banging your head against a brick wall because you understand what your child is capable of.

When we, as parents understand that 2-year-olds have no capacity to share, that they can't understand that concept, then we can stop being embarrassed when they take things from other kids. We can stop stressing and sounding like a broken record. The author gives us some strategies to re-frame the situation (have two or more of certain loved toys available for play dates. Use language like "I see that you are playing with that truck. It looks like XXX (another child) wants to play too. When you are finished, she can play."

This is not a one size fits all book. You gotta think about your background and what you bring to your relationship with your child. But you get piles of smart advice that helps you slow down, relax, re-frame and give (what this expert knows) is a better response to the common challenges of parenting a young child.
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Initial post: Apr 22, 2014 3:29:42 PM PDT
I apparently have some kind of knack that translates into loving the toddler years. Starting with my first child, I found this stage of childhood almost completely enthralling and rewarding. I don't know how important it is that new parents know how the brain of a child is "wired" but I do know that parents should relax and enjoy their children. If you find your child fascinating, you will be rewarded. For example, studies have shown that children from an early age respond to a smile. If you smile, the child watching you learns to smile back at you. It is a "reward" system! From parent to child and from child back to parent. So my advice is to observe, listen and learn from your child and you will enjoy these special years.
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