2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
This book will instill much insight and compassion.,
This review is from: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, A Psychiatrist's Own Story (Paperback)
Having been in a same sex relationship for over 15 years, with a man whom is 26 years older than me, I found this book very insightful. This book not only helps the mature gay person, but also the younger generation and those in intergenerational relationships.
For years I have heard about how my partners views of people who were gay, and exactly what that was suppose to mean, affected his perspective and how he lived. He was married twice because he thought that was what he was suppose to do! It wasn't until we got together that he actually starting living a gay life...at the age of 56. Together we experienced his (as well as my) development and new understanding of what being gay meant. For my partner, the title "Finally Out; Letting Go of Living Straight" was so perfect and so true!!
Dr. Olson's book provided such insight on this topic. It help me, as the younger partner, understand what the mature person was going through. A different generation with a much different, more stringent view on roles and obligations, than the younger generation of today. They have to confront those ingrained ideals of the past, and some how align them with the a more forward thinking of today. Some of the things Dr. Olson says in his book could have been said by my partner!
His book also touches on some controversial topics, which made me think about how our society looks at things. Whether you agree or not, it provides an opportunity to really understand yourself on these topics...maybe even question your previous perceptions.
I have read some reviews that say his book is too statistical and not personal enough. How can you provide some of your personal experiences, without also providing empirical evidence to show that what you experienced makes sense? Without this type of evidence, any author (not just Dr. Olson) would lack some credibility, and thus open themselves up to criticism because of it. In my own opinion, one cannot happen without the other.
I highly recommend this book, not just to the mature set, but to people of all ages. It will help you to understand yourself, others, and your views of them and where they came from. Through a better understanding, you might just find yourself having more compassion for others.