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Not what I expected,
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This review is from: Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality, 2nd Edition (Paperback)
While there is a lot of good information in this book, it's not exactly what I expected. I already had the "What to Expect When You're Expecting" and the "What to Expect - the first year" books, and everything covered in this book is covered in those, and a little easier to find in a hurry, in my opinion. I was hoping for something that would be a good quick reference for my husband (w're first-time parents), but it's not laid on in what I'd call a "man-friendly" manner -- meaning there's a lot of additional information, explanation, reasons, etc. wrapped around each topic, rather than getting quickly to the point. Not that any of that information is bad, it's just not really the quick and easy guide for sleep-deprived new parents that I'd hoped for.
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Initial post: Feb 6, 2012 6:50:12 AM PST
Maureen McCarthy says:
You might want to check out "Helping Baby Sleep: The Science and Practice of Gentle Bedtime Parenting" by PhDs Gethin and Macgregor. It does NOT recommend leaving babies alone to "cry it out" as a method. (Read "The Science of Parenting" by psychotherapist Margot Sunderland to learn why not responding to baby's cries damages their brains and anti-anxiety systems, as well as their ability to trust and their relationship with YOU.) A good all-around book is "Attached at the Heart: 8 Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children," by Parker and Nicholson....Maybe the best thing you can do is keep baby within arm's reach and know that it's normal for babies to wake up during the night for the first year or two. For me, adjusting my expectations made all the difference. Good luck!
In reply to an earlier post on Apr 3, 2012 5:14:43 PM PDT
Thank you SO much for those recommendations, Maureen. I've been searching for a good how-to parenting guide for baby's first year (we'll also be first-time parents here soon) and I've been discouraged so far by the most popular options (What to expect, Baby411, etc). As someone who absolutely loathes the CIO method, I've had a hard time finding reading material that supports my parenting decisions. These books sound like exactly what I'm looking for!
In reply to an earlier post on Apr 3, 2012 9:14:41 PM PDT
Maureen McCarthy says:
Thanks for posting here in response to what I wrote; it's good to know that someone appreciated my input. "Attached at the Heart" has a great chapter on preparing for birth...You might want to check out the song I wrote from the perspective of a baby left alone to "cry it out." I had it professionally performed and recorded; you can download it on Amazon by clicking on Where I Need To Be. You also might want to join API (Attachment Parenting International) to check out their website, www.attachmentparenting.org, find a group near you, learn of other great resources, and/or join discussions on their Facebook page. In the next couple of months I hope to launch my own website with research findings from the fields of neuroscience, psychology, anthropology, etc., that show the harm caused by mainstream American infant "independence-training" methods, and the positive effects of a respectful, responsive and relationship-oriented parenting style. I'll come back here to post the information about my website and Facebook page. Best of luck as you begin your great new adventure as a mother!
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