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Interesting Cocktail Party Opinion,
This review is from: Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On (Hardcover)
Stuck is a book of personal opinions. People who are opinionated are either interesting or a bore. Anneli Rufus's opinions (and I say opinions as actual factual data in this book is scarce) just barely hang on the side of interesting. Most of the time, however, I felt like I was trapped in the corner at a cocktail party by someone who was shooting unfounded, but intelligent sounding, opinions from the hip and would not pause long enough to let me move politely to the onion dip. An example of this cocktail party banter is no more obvious then where Rufus, in a rant against what she perceives as a 1960's Zen haze that has lastingly stuck our generation selfishly in the "present moment", entangles Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk nominated by Martin Luther King for a Nobel Peace Prize. She flippantly calls Mr. Hanh a "mindfulness broker." With apparently little to no understanding of the core of his message, Rufus goes onto state that monks and babies can afford to live stuck in the present moment as they are specially taken care of . She apparently concludes that the teaching of mindfulness has no basis in a real world where adults must remain unstuck and prepare and plan for long term goals. Please breath so that I can move out of the corner and refill my drink.
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Initial post: Aug 18, 2011 8:34:55 PM PDT
A. Watkins says:
I also felt like a victim of an overtalker at a cocktail party -- except that occasionally, I would find myself interested in what she had to say, or outraged, or wanting to correct her, and that was where I felt the real weaknesses of the book. She didn't carry her ideas through to logical or startling or insighful conclusions; as you say, she spent a lot of time "shooting unfounded, but intelligent sounding, opinions from the hip." If she'd had one of the excellent editors I've had in my academic writing career, brief as it's been, she would have been MADE to substantiate her claims and explain herself in ways that would have revealed her assumptions and forced her to examine them more carefully and explicitly.
I felt she might have been more interested in making ideas sound poetic or urgent or obvious or stylish than in making ideas. And that bugs me and makes me want to leave the corner for something with more substance -- like the onion dip.
In reply to an earlier post on Sep 28, 2011 3:37:08 AM PDT
Anthony A. Sheffy says:
It is a good topic and she is a skilled writer. My vote would be for her to take a second shot at a new book called "Unstuck: finding release by bringing substance and meaning into your life." I will download it this afternoon.
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