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Men can be nurturing, too!,
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This review is from: The Myth of Mr. Mom - Real Stories By Real Stay-At-Home Dads (Kindle Edition)
I actually found it kind of interesting that some of what these men went through and worried about before becoming primary caregiver echo worries that I myself have. I don't have children yet and I'm always worrying I'll be a terrible, not-nurturing-mother. In fact, that combined with how much of a slob I am, I've always thought that my fiance would be a much better primary caregiver than I could ever be.
It was refreshing to read these (sometimes quite humorous) accounts of men that have made the transition into the stay-at-home-dad occupation, and it's reassuring to know that a fellow human being can successfully make that lifestyle change and sometimes even manage to do a bit of writing or other work on the side to help out with income, even if it takes a while to become established. Even though I'm female, because I'm working full time at the moment and because I've never been a "normal" (read: stereotypical) female, I feel like I can sympathize with these men who are trying so hard to do right by their children.
I think anyone, no matter the gender, who is about to leave the workforce to stay at home and care for the kids and house ought to read this book. Especially menfolk, of course. I think men need to know that it is okay to be nurturing.
As a side note, after reading Jeremy's essay about his father-in-law just not understanding Jeremy's decision to stay at home, I wonder if the reason it's so much easier for the newer generation of fathers to stay at home is because it wasn't until the 70s that women really started to attend college and get higher paying jobs en masse. Our parents and grandparents just didn't grow up in an era where they were used to seeing women be the breadwinners. Men didn't have a chance to stay at home and be nurturing because that was never an option for them. Women just didn't have a chance at higher paying jobs back then. Just a thought.
Also, as a second side note, some of these essays made me laugh out loud, and I'll be going back through the authors and queuing up some of their other books to give them a shot some time. :)