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good advices, good read!,
This review is from: Instinctive Parenting: Trusting Ourselves to Raise Good Kids (Hardcover)
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Ada Calhoun's book on parenting is mostly an account of her experiences, observations, and lessons while raising her first child, Oliver. Calhoun's book is witty, thought-provoking, and just plain honest. Her book is divided into three categories: shelter, food, and love.
The premise behind Calhoun's book is basically what the title implies: instinctive child-raising. Rather than focusing too much on others' advice or trying to be the perfect parent, Calhoun recounts her parenting as natural, trial and error. Calhoun does not instruct on how to be the perfect parent; instead, she focuses on trusting herself first as a parent, which is essential in any situation, particularly while raising a child. She rejects the notion that parenting should be stressful and negative, and instead highlights that parenting should be joyful and fun, while also challenging. Calhoun often adds personal anecdotes, not only to add relatable parent experiences, but also to add humor. Calhoun also effectively addresses the importance of nurturing, loving, and teaching your child how to be little civil servants, which all contribute to creating a happy, independent, and loving child, and a good adult.
In sum, Calhoun encourages parents to remind themselves that whatever they are doing to raise their child is RIGHT, and no blog or magazine article should dictate how parents should do their job. As mentioned previously, she reinforces this idea by describing her personal stories to make parenting experiences applicable to all parents. I recommend this book to a self-conscious parent such as myself, the mother who needs a little motivation in her parenting ability to feel successful and peaceful with what she does each day to raise her child. After reading this book, I have learned that life is too short to wilt in anxiety, and it's time to enjoy my child more, even if he's more spirited than ten 3 ˝ year olds combined. On the other hand, I do not recommend this book to parents who are searching for a "how-to" parenting book, because you will not find this book useful. The only psychology involved is the power of trust and common sense in an individual parent to raise a well-rounded kid.