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Don't despair, pursue the dance of love,
This review is from: Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome (Paperback)
The down to earth tone of Jed Diamond's, Mr. Mean, is such that as I was reading it I found his words melding with the reassuring, calming and insightful voice of a friend. A wise and trusted friend who cares enough and knows enough to be helpful without being judgmental. Such is the power of good, sound advice from someone who knows what he's talking about and has the courage and greatness of mind not to keep it to himself. As some men are want to do.
Dr. Jed explains in accessible, powerful language why this is so.
Through the book, each of us gets to go one-to-one with one of the world's leaders in the men's health movement. To help us help ourselves and the troubled men we love, Dr. Jed divided the book into 32 short chapters, each addressing a specific question and ending with space for our own notes.
We seldom turn to books like Mr. Mean unless we're in troubled, troubling relationships, or we know someone who is and we want to help. But, this book made me feel good about being a human, because it made me mindful that even though we may do or say hurtful things to those we love, we're not unworthy, inadequate or bad. We just have problems arising from stressors, such as fear, shame and guilt, that we oftentimes keep hidden from ourselves. None of which has to defeat us, however tempted we may be to act out our frustration or give in to our despair.
Dr. Jed ends Mr. Mean with a poetical, beautiful dance of words and wisdom that speaks to the heart of those of us pursuing the Dances of Love. One way or another, we all like to dance, not just dance, but do it well. This book helps us get the steps right, the way we want and need them to be, so we can be good lovers and be loved for it.