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In sex, We are alike more than we think. New Study about Sexuality reveals.,
This review is from: Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex (Paperback)
In my chosen field of Architecture we use what exists to create new facilities. In this book, noted Sexual Expert Nina Hartley does a similar construct in a loving funny and first person way. All of us have sexual portions of our bodies, want to have sex and most of us with another person. As Nina explains "It feels good, It is good for you, It helps your interaction with the opposite sex who you wish to create a bond".
This book is a much better education tool than anything even going back to the "Joy of Sex" from the 70s. Why?
First, Nina constantly uses her own experience as a sexual person with both men and women, she is bi,to describe what feels good and what may not feel so good.
Second, Nina explains the physical espects of how to be sexual first with yourself and then with a partner. Self loving it is called, and all of us need to love ourselves before we love others, she explains. During all of the chapters in the book her physical explanations, she does not need any diagrams or pictures, she allows the reader to feel that he or she is in an encounter. Nina uses a very easily understood method to illustrate, "Near hand and far hand".
Third, Nina both touches on sexual practices that not everyone will use but all of us have an interest in hearing about. We may not want to use Anal Sex or jSwinging, but at least we need to know what happens, why and how it is performed and how one does meet others of a similar persuasion.
Fourth, Nina explains as no one ever has, that mens and womens sexual anatomy, developed during pregnancy are the same to begin with. We all were girls first and then during pregnancy developed fully into male and female persons. I will not spoil that she says, but the portions of chapters dealing with this issue alone make this book worth buying.
Fifth, and most important. Both men and women have a most important sex organ, their brains. Nina in each phase explains the cultural reasons, the mental reasons and the psycological reasons why we both want to engage in sex and why we at the same time fear sex. Nina allows us all to make decisions about each of us are comrtable with. As she explains some of us do not like to engage in certain practices. That is fine she says, but she also says, talk it out. Only then can we agree on what we want to provide for each other and ourselves, sexually. Nina, thus allowsus to loose our fear about sex.
Every man and every women should buy a copy as part of their sexual and marital preparations. Better yet, after buying they should read this book to each other.
Nina who has a bent for humor, especially in the titles, makes this book easy to read, non scarey and a wonderful practical tool to help every person understand not only how to have sex but also why we want to.