27 of 35 people found the following review helpful
What Happens When Working With You Is Killing Them?,
Amazon Verified Purchase(What's this?)
This review is from: Working With You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work (Hardcover)There is a lot to like about "Working With You Is Killing Me."
The authors use their years of business experience to cleverly categorize a number of boss types, work methods, co-worker habits, attitude issues, leadership styles et als. that are harmful to your working experience - and offer the means to overcome ("unhook from") them, often beginning with a massage, or a run, or walking the dog, or getting a facial to purge bad karma and rethink potential options. Putting a form of scientific method to resolving work related problems - including the reader's assessment of their own role in the problem - is a big part of the text. It provides an organized and controllable process to attempt issue resolution.
For me, the best part of the book, however, was the subject of "Managing Up," in which the authors urge their readers to take more control over their disappointing managers by using that same scientific method to manage them to preferred solutions. Good advice.
And, there are a number of self-help exercises to assess your fit with Corporate Culture, or to determine if you are hooked (emotionally distressed) by a "Fatal Attraction"-type manager etc. Again - good stuff and helpful to think about for many people, particularly the less experience workforce.
Still, I was caught in a bit of a dilemma. The book is written from the point of view of what do you do when someone else is causing emotional discomfort to you - as if you are the center of the universe. OK - that's why you bought the book. But, survey results from reputable researchers show that the primary reason for people remaining with their jobs is that they like their co-workers. Even more than their commitment to the work they do, they begin with liking their co-workers. Therefore, a collegial environment is critical to employee retention, customer satisfaction and business performance. This clearly suggests that there is a corresponding responsibility for each worker to fit in with their colleagues - even if minor personality traits or managerial quirks exist, and they always do.
The workplace isn't typically about achieving personalized justice, as much as it is about intelligent people grouping together to form an efficiently running and productive organization. Readers should not lose focus of this. Otherwise - "You" may be the person referenced as killing the climate (and your co-workers) in your quest to untrap yourself of the personal demons that ruin your day.
Overall, a good book, and a solid reference to have handy.
Sort: Oldest first | Newest first
Showing 1-1 of 1 posts in this discussion
Initial post: Nov 24, 2006 3:06:21 PM PST
BOOK REVIEW says:
James, I think you fail to see the point of the book, that when others create toxic environments, it becomes very difficult for anything to get done at all. I appreciate your theoretical knowledge, and your well meaning advice, but I think what you are saying is out of context for the content of this book. Yes, we all understand your point, but the point the author is making, is what to do when this becomes impossible, when someone is acting way outside the boundaries of what makes for a collegial work environment. We we are talking about minor irritations, petty differences etc., then yes, you are correct, but the authors are addressing issues of serious sabotage issues that are left unchecked by the organizational culture and how to deal with that. Please don't confuse the right cure for the wrong cause!
‹ Previous 1 Next ›