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A Superb Introduction To Seduction During The Day,
This review is from: Day Bang: How To Casually Pick Up Girls During The Day (Kindle Edition)
"I admit that back then I needed both alcohol and loud music to help me with my approaches, especially the latter, which would soften the silences caused by my weak conversational skills."
Approach Day Bang however you will, what I guarantee you is that you will not put it down without an emotional impact. In my opinion, this is the ultimate mark of a good book: it leaves its reader unchanged, a mind forever expanded, whatever the final feeling.
Part psychology textbook, part sociology, part self-help, but all seduction, Day Bang is written, above all, with an ultimately pragmatic eye: what does it takes to meet, speak to, generate attraction from and eventually and unapologetically have intercourse with women. Roosh goes about outlining his view on what is known as "day game" with a precision, a methodology that may surprise were it not known that in a former life, he was a scientist. This is seduction at the edge of a surgeon's scalpel.
If I have painted a picture in your mind of ruthlessness, cast it out. There's nothing ruthless about how its author unfolds the topic: there's business to be done all right, but it is to be done with the underpinning realization that one is dealing with human beings. So do not be surprised to constantly read in the deep and almost gentle sincerity Roosh marshals, constantly reminding the reader that there are no marauding Gothic tribes anywhere in sight; instead, we're simply interacting, having a chat with a fellow human, with a view to having a good conversation at the very least. Importantly, he reminds that the reader "need[s] to let her know that you're a normal, safe guy who isn't going to humiliate her in front of a crowd or stab her in the throat." Day Game, he writes, entails "a relaxed attitude, a focus on building connection through fun conversation, self-value, and an acceptance that this is a numbers game in which hard work is rewarded."
Well-started is half done, or so the saying goes. The book begins with an analysis of the proper mindset for approaching during the daytime: "... you need to have the rejection mindset, where you imagine the absolute worst possible case, accept it in your mind, and then do the approach anyway." Along the way, you come to appreciate the same easy-going attitude in his writing that Roosh advocates with day approaches. Peppered with hilarious and insightful witticisms, I hope you will find yourself annotating your Kindle with "haha"s the same as I.
Once that important piece of business is done, the meat is ready for carving. Employing the hilarious and somewhat clarifying metaphor of girls in the daytime as cats (easily spooked, coy, even aloof), Roosh supports the idea of what he calls "elderly chat," a somewhat rambling, sometimes confused, but always friendly discussion with one's prospective beau. Tapping into the psychology that drives women to be helpful to one appearing to need help (a maternal instinct, perhaps?), elderly chat is as breezy and noncommittal as can be, keeping the true aim of the interaction a badly-kept secret so as not to terrify the cat. This kind of approach can even be characterized as exposing a vulnerability so as not to trigger a shield and strikes me as quite profound, and certainly not what you would expect in such a book.
There are those who relentlessly push a brash version of approaching during the day. Known as the "direct approach," it consists of intensely advertising one's interest in the target. While some girls respond to such an approach, Roosh correctly points out that such "spoils the tension" and is the equivalent of demanding an immediate response avec gusto, if you'll pardon the French. Think of the last time you were on the lot and the target of a high-pressure car salesman and you begin to see the situation. Day Bang takes the other, less-traveled path and does so in a way that is comfortable, even for the beginner with approach anxiety.
An intelligent conversation soon follows, characterized by affording the girl an opportunity to pick up on (or reject!) clues that leads to weaving a tapestry of interaction during which attraction builds that may lead on to other, later dates. You will notice the probabilistic language. This is on purpose, as Roosh quickly relentlessly points out, we're not programming a UNIX machine here. This is building a deep rapport that is simply not usually possible with the raggedy direct approach, leading to less flakiness as the girl realizes, once the high of such an approach wears off (Roosh likens this to a cocaine hit) that she probably doesn't want to follow up with such a person. As the author leads on, always emphasizing principles instead of rote rules, one gets introduced to the different scenarios possible. From the corner coffee shop, to bookstores, to public transportation, Roosh describes how to position oneself to take maximum advantage of the situation while not arousing trepidation.
I will leave off describing the various methods in-depth because, in the final analysis, they aren't that important. What is comes down to accepting and understanding the concepts, and by his use of metaphor and illustrative language, author Roosh provides the goods, even as he provides the supporting structure for newbies in the way of concrete examples and specific dialog. As with little Forrest Gump breaking free of his steel braces, you're not going to need these for long.
In summary, what I like about Roosh's writing is the easy sway with which he manipulates his words. You're having a lunch time talk with a childhood friend whom you've always envied his success with women. Now finally, you've cornered him, and for the price of a latte, gotten him to divulge his secrets. And thankfully, he's taken pity on you and, but not without some trepidation as he knows the weapon he's about to pass on may cause some harm, he starts talking. It will pay you in the long run to pay attention.
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Initial post: Nov 6, 2011 6:47:59 PM PST
Argonautykos 2020 says:
Great piece of reviewing. Congratulations. I'm buy Roosh book. Thank you.
Posted on Sep 29, 2013 2:55:26 PM PDT
A. Semler says:
So how many more girls have you been able to pick up since reading this book as compared to before?
Posted on Oct 24, 2013 5:18:59 PM PDT
Juan Pablo Albano says:
Please help me : What book should I read first ??
this book or "Bang: More Lays In 60 Days" ( also from Roosh ) ??
In reply to an earlier post on Jan 10, 2016 2:27:17 AM PST
Read Bang first then Day Bang. Use the first 30 Lays books as case studies.
Posted on Feb 9, 2016 7:36:52 AM PST
H. Joachim says:
"Peppered with hilarious and insightful witticisms, I hope you will find yourself annotating your Kindle with 'haha's the same as I."
You deserve a "haha" for this sentence.
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