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An excellent resource for couples!,
This review is from: Marriage Isn't For Sissies: 7 Simple Keys To Unlocking The Best Part Of Your Life! (Paperback)
What irony: there are no courses to prepare couples for the best part of their life, that is being loving spouses and good parents. That's why couples need Dr. Beth Erickson's newest book, Marriage Isn't for Sissies: 7 Simple Keys to Unlocking the Best Part of Your Life.
These 7 keys provide concrete tasks for improved communication and problem solving skills around topics not often discussed all in one place, such as avoiding boring sex, traveling spouses, non-traditional families.
She addresses the importance of appropriate boundaries around the couple - not too rigid where there's no room for others in their life, and not too fluid so the couple has no time alone, separate from their children, in-laws, work, etc.
This book is reader-friendly, with check lists that can be put to use immediately. There is a great Self-Assessment Index for rating your marriage, where each partner completes it separately and then discusses the responses. She suggests taking the test before and again after reading the book to see the changes. There are thought provoking Do's and Don'ts for deepening intimacy, building trust and strengthening the commitment to marriage.
The sidebars cover unusual topics, like a list of conversation starters for couples who only talk about children, work, or money. (My favorite topic is "What's your definition of a good citizen?")
Dr. Erickson shares her own personal story of growth while urging readers to confront their own growth. She does this through reminding readers, "The best gift parents can give their children is to be crazy about each other." Children, she says, are the beneficiaries of couples who risk what she calls "emotional nudity" - vulnerable and honest communication.
She provocatively challenges readers: "Fighting can improve your relationship," and she gives specific guidelines how to do fight well. She tackles topics that often go unspoken: like the controversial issue of children sharing parents' beds and the impact of marital problems on Corporate America's productivity. The last chapter of Marriage Isn't For Sissies anticipates some readers complaints: they are willing to change but the spouse won't.
Dr. Erickson gently but firmly prods her readers - with specific guidelines - to improve the best part of their life - their marriage.
Dr. Karen Gail Lewis
Marraige and Family Therapist
Author, With or Without A Man
And the upcoming: The World's First Relationship Dictionary