13 of 14 people found the following review helpful
A Confidence Builder..........,
By A Customer
This review is from: Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific (Paperback)
I picked this book up when my first child was about two years old. It really did wonders just for my sanity. It taught me not only how to discipline my child but how to be patient and understanding of why the child behaves the way he does. The book helps one to realize that it's normal for a child to test his boundaries, and it helps you learn how to respond. Coming from an extremely lenient upbringing, I decided that that way of parenting was not effective and actually detrimental to a childs development and future. I wanted to learn a different way. Using this book, I have developed an effective yet loving way of discipling and raising my children. I get compliments on their behavior quite often, but yet I allow them to just "be kids" at the appropriate times as well. I also learned what are reasonable expectations for a toddler. The book suggests a balanced approach to discipline where the parents is understanding yet consistent and firm. The writer does not advise one to spank, he simply states that one only use spanking "as a final resort." In fact, he says that "the key to effective discipline is not punishment, but management." He says "spankings are not an effective consequence and should not be used as such." In this book, he is not recommending that people spank their children. He does acknowledge that some parents use this technique and he sets up guidelines for it so that it does not become beating, but he stresses much more positive and proactive ways of discipline. In this book the
author suggests that a parent make time to play, talk and read with their child, but he also suggests that a parent needs to have time to do his/her thing too. If you are looking for a promotion for the family bed and attatchment parenting, this book is not for you. If you are looking for a no-nonsense way to raise your children, with the parents being the head of the house and not the other way around, then this book is for you.
The quotes in this summary are from Making the Terrible Two's Terrific by John Rosemond.