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A Father's Tears: A Generous Gift from the Heart,
This review is from: A Father's Tears (Paperback)
"I pity the man that doesn't possess the capability or knowledge and strength to show and be able to deal with grief. These flashes of grief caused by quick triggers like music or a certain smell are very difficult and sometimes impossible to quell. The floodgates will open and the storm of tears will begin. And it can happen if you are alone, on a bus or in a board meeting with your colleagues watching you fall completely apart. If you think you can control it, think again."
A Father's Tears tells the heartbreaking story of how David McColl, his wife Monica and his daughter Alanna lost their beloved son and brother Anthony (Tony) in a horrific car crash a little over one month following the celebration of his 19th birthday. It is a deeply moving account of the unimaginable experience David and his family endured on the morning they received "The Call" and heard the news that Anthony had been taken from this world far too early; a touching--and often humorous--homage to the sensitive and 'spirited child' who became a wonderful young man full of love, compassion and kindness who touched the lives of so many during his short life (inspiring, among other tributes, the spontaneous establishment of the 'Tony's Promise' campaign within hours of his passing); and a deeply personal account of how a family, beset by the worst kind of tragedy, manages to pick up the pieces of its shattered life.
Most poignantly, however, it is an honest and courageous account that David wrote in part to help himself through the painful and complex process known as grieving, but equally importantly to share the lessons learned throughout his personal experience for the benefit of others. While he and his family will likely never fully awake from the nightmare no family can ever imagine without experiencing it, the book describes a sincere and conscious rejection of self-pity, anger and blame, replaced by a steadfast and selfless commitment to raising awareness, particularly among young people, of the potentially devastating impact of distracted driving.
Nor does David accept society's expectations that men don't, can't, and/or shouldn't cry. By refusing to accept this absurd notion, David has opened the door to other grieving men to give themselves permission to shed tears: "I feel that I've given myself permission to cry, and that's a good thing. When I cry, I win. My grief does not." This is truly a beautiful book,one that I couldn't put down; a generous gift from the heart of a man whose life has changed forever.