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Concerned with some of the criticism of this book,
This review is from: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field (Paperback)
After reading through many of the negative reviews on The Six Pillars, I found myself wondering how many of those naysayers have actually read (or understand) the book. Take, for instance, the review of the supposed "psychologist" who trashes the entire book based on Branden's comment that people in intimate relationships feel most at home, most comfortable with, people who share similar levels of self-esteem. (This comment on page 6, by the way, which is as far as "the psychologist" got, I fear). Our worthy psychologist says that this can't be true because, get this, in his experience as a psychologist, unpopular kids at school want to be like and hang around the popular kids. Therefore it can't be true that people in long term, close relationships feel comfortable with partners of similar self-esteem levels. Maybe its just me, but DOES THAT MAKE ANY SENSE?? What does unpopular kids wanting to be like or be around popular kids have to do with self-esteem and intimate human relationships? And since when do the popular kids at school automatically have high levels of self-esteem???? The logical errors in his review really startle me, coming from a supposed mental health professional. And then to use this convoluted argument to discredit the whole book? I just wanted to point this one example out because I think a majority of bad reviews for this wonderful book have to do with emotional, kneee jerk reactions, or simple misreading of the text. And of all the things Nathaniel Branden would cringe at, irrational, and emotional logic would be at the top of the list.
I posted an earlier review of the book, so I won't go into how special a thinker and writer I think Branden is. Or how carefully argued the Six Pillars is. I just wanted to point out that to Branden, logic and reason are sacred things, and to discredit him without using logic or reason is a bit of an insult to his work.
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Initial post: Mar 12, 2011 1:05:09 PM PST
The Avid Reader says:
You make some good points. Not only do I agree with many things you said, I knew where you were going before you said them. I followed your logic and I agree that the psychologist's criticisms were not very logical.
Posted on Nov 5, 2012 6:30:45 AM PST
Traditional psychologist go to school to learn a technique and to apply it. They don't usually get out of they way to get new knowledge everytime they're facing a setback with a patient.
Since young age my parents sent me to different profesional psychologists, none of them actually helped me. 10 years of unsuccessful therapy. Then I started the working life and got by somehow. I'm 32 now and I started to grow last year since i opened my first personal developement books writen by dedicated writers. Yeah Baby
Posted on Jan 18, 2015 11:10:32 AM PST
S. Friedman says:
I have a little story. I *really* wanted to be popular in junior high school. The first week of 8th grade I sat at the popular table. Nobody was mean to me and in fact one of the kids was really cool and inclusive. I felt so uncomfortable still. After the first week I couldn't take it anymore and went back to the nerd/reject table where I felt comfortable again. Looking back, I'm sure it had to do with low self-esteem.
Posted on Jul 1, 2015 5:29:05 AM PDT
Also keep in mind many people's ideological, emotional knee-jerk negative reaction to anything or anyone connected with Ayn Rand, (Nathaniel Branden being one of her (past?) friends/associates). Being a huge fan of Ayn Rand myself, I'm quite familiar and often amused by the countless unthinking, non-reasoned hysterical attacks on her, so it's no surprise to hear of this highly educated psychologist writing such a non-nonsensical, emotionally-driven reaction to Branden's book.
Posted on Apr 19, 2016 11:33:05 PM PDT
Mike Meldrem says:
Very nice to hear your rationale. Dissecting product reviews on Amazon is very important to get a better idea of the quality of the product. The star rating is what's easily seen, but some reviews are poor without merit, or, like you said, by people who either are on a different wavelength than you or unjustly trashing the book. For example, the book The Ultramind Solution has a rating of 4 stars on Amazon, but that's only because of a 1 star review by a vegan angrily trashing the book. I personally am a vegan, but I still bought the book because the rest of the reviews gave it 5 stars and seemed to like it. Before I digress, I just want to say that it's good to dissect these reviews like you did. I ordered the 6 Pillars, and I think it will be a good read. I, too, value sound logic in high regard. I saw a video review of this book, and it's supposed to talk about always taking personal responsibility for our actions and always living in line with who we wish to be, as that raises our self-esteem. Whenever we turn away in fear from what we should do, it lowers our self-esteem. Should be some good stuff to read and put into practice.
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