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This review is from: Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (Kindle Edition)
I am an active father of young kids. So, when I read the excerpt in the Wall Street Journal, I found Druckerman's thoughts about parenting squared with mine: does parenting really need to be an obsessive, combative and all-consuming endeavor? Is there another way in which parents can be fully committed to our children, teach them independence and even enjoy ourselves a bit.
I picked up the book and devoured it. The writing is highly approachable and even a bit funny. This is not a "how-to" book. It is a series of informed observations about how Parisians approach parenting. Druckerman shares anecdotes and then supports them with some research. There are no magic tricks; just a shift in behavior and approach that the author shares with us. Some of it makes great sense, for example, The Pause and Education instead of Discipline.
Even in the highly connected and flat world, observational skills and analysis of what may right in front of us can force us to reconsider what we do. Druckerman delivers a thoughtful, thought provoking and entertaining book.
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Initial post: Feb 17, 2012 10:38:27 AM PST
Last edited by the author on Feb 21, 2012 10:50:25 AM PST
"Discipline" means teaching.
In reply to an earlier post on Mar 7, 2012 10:17:12 PM PST
J. Murphy says:
Discipline means teaching people to obey rules, using punishment to correct disobedience. Punishment is the key word, here. To educate is simply to give intellectual, moral, or social instruction. I suppose there's no sense in quibbling over semantics, but the former does have a harsher, more punitive tone.
Posted on Mar 19, 2012 5:15:35 PM PDT
I am presently reading the book (and enjoying it!) and like Druckerman says, French parents do not make their child the center of their world nor their lives. In short, French parents actually have interests outside of their children! Not surprisingly, once upon a time in America, American parents had real lives too. By having other interests outside of their children, it helped their children develop the sense that the world did not revolve around them.
Considering how American children are "raised" nowadays, I can certainly understand why there is a plethora of books on why parenting in other nations is superior to that in America. It would seem on the surface that the United States of America is indeed the birth home to child-worshipping (see Martha Weinman Lear's book), a concept that did not exist during the decade that I was born. With so many new parents wanting to try alternative parenting methods to helicopter, attachment, permissive, et al, i should not be a surprise that Druckerman has now officially joined Amy Chua in finding superior methods of parenting. Then again, maybe it does not really take a 284 page book to tell some parunts to get some hobbies outside of their children.
In reply to an earlier post on Apr 30, 2012 9:42:31 AM PDT
I like your comment a lot. I am French and have lived here more than 30 years, and raised my kids here. One thing I noticed and warned my grown-up kids about is that in America, when a couple has children, they turn immediately into this sort of asexual Mummy/Daddy couple. They seem to loose their sexuality and sense of fun, from the way they stop interacting with each other to the way they dress even.
A couple, parents or not, should have date nights, flirt with each other, enjoy life outside of the parenting, something that the French never loose.
In reply to an earlier post on Aug 27, 2012 1:27:20 PM PDT
Discipline does not necessarily require punishment; it is linked in most American minds in that sense. Discipline is training that molds, corrects, or perfects something. Discipline is meant to teach internal control. While many parents interpret that to mean teaching using punishment not all of us view it this way.
In reply to an earlier post on Mar 31, 2013 4:38:07 PM PDT
English Rose says:
Great comment, thanks.
In reply to an earlier post on Jun 22, 2013 5:28:25 PM PDT
Amy C White says:
Sorry,I meant to click the yes button!
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