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She puts language to the new world of dating.,
This review is from: The 30-Day Love Detox: Cleanse Yourself of Bad Boys, Cheaters, and Men Who Won't Commit -- And Find A Real Relationship (Paperback)
I bought this book not because I need a detox from bad men, but because I saw Wendy on a talk show and I wanted to hear more about the statistics she was reciting for what I call the new state of the world in love.
She addresses very specifically how the feminist movement has changed the roles of men and women in the world, and cites statistics that demonstrate what I also thought about men of the last decade. They seem to be lost on how to be men, and this is the fault of women. Women are simply giving men sex without no commitment let alone even a date or relationship.
I agree with Wendy in my book about being "old school" with men, in that delaying a sexual relationship is the only way to determine a man's interest in you. It's not playing games, it's eliminating the players. The right man will earn you and be in love with you from earning you. It's actually his innate desire.
This book clearly demonstrates HOW to do this. It's basically just like the Nike saying, "Just Do It", in that you simply must stop feeding your emotional needs with bad men. Once you become aware, you must heed to the red flags as soon as they surface and trust your gut when it's time to move on from someone. Become an emotionally healthy woman and stop attracting these types of men and feeding yours and his insecurities.
Specifically I loved page 219 which states that "If you're a woman who's educated, well traveled, open minded, and physically attractive, you're the least likely to be married, divorce free, and a mother."
Wendy discusses how through the history of the world, women married out of need, not to say there wasn't love, but when you have options by being an educated, traveled, open minded, and attractive woman, your needs are quite different from a woman who isn't all of the above.
If you are wondering why your relationships have a similar pattern or don't go the way you wish, I highly recommend this book to heighten your awareness.
Additionally, I hope that the paradigm can change, in that it's not everyone's goal in life to "be" married. It is no guarantee to happiness. Happiness, is a greater guarantee to a successful marriage.
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Initial post: Feb 15, 2014 5:42:53 AM PST
This is the obverse of the strategy for men in _No More Mr. Nice Guy_: go as slow as you can sexually at first, to find out as quickly as possible (without muddying the waters with the emotional fallout of sex) if she has the QUALITIES you want. The women who think this book makes sense should look for men who think NMMNG makes sense.
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