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Blog postFeeling Depressed? What are the Signs of Depression? Signs of depression seem obvious at first, right? – you feel low, or down; lack energy and motivation, and also ‘don’t care.’ But are these actual signs of depression or just reactions to life not going your way? How do you know whether you are just feeling [...]
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Blog postEver wonder why you end up fired up with a new years resolution, only to feel defeated a few weeks later? It's usually because you are coming from a place of "should" rather than authentic desire. The 'should' has a built in failure mechanism, where as the natural desire makes it a breeze.
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Blog postSeven Ways to Say, “I love you,” and Six Ways That Fail. “I love you!” says your partner as they go off to get on with their day. “Love you” says your mom as you end a phone conversation and you say it back. Do you feel loved in that moment? Are you experiencing loving [...]
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Blog postMindful Co-parenting During Marital Tensions - Five Ways to Ensure Success Mindful co-parenting involves thinking about how you want to bring up your children, putting it into words, sharing it with each other and planning a strategy of implementation based on nurturing the children - rather than about winning or losing points in the marital [...]
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Blog postGood Feelings Can Scare you into the Familiar Arms of the Bad Feelings Good feelings turn bad so quick. Damn! You know only too well that pattern of feeling great one minute and then boom, you hear bad news, or your phone runs out of juice – those positive feelings get wiped out in a [...]
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Blog postCovid-19 related Anxiety and Depression Covid-19 related anxiety and depression rates show a 29% increase from pre-pandemic times a year ago Are you part of the 1 in 3 people experiencing anxiety and depression during this pandemic? Perhaps you feel irritated more than you used to, helpless in a situation where you have no control. [...]
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Blog postThree Crucial Ways to Feeling Loved in a Pandemic Feeling loved in a pandemic is problematic when there is more pressure on partners to make each feel valued when the world feels so unpredictable. Scared that her family may become infected with Covid-19, Claire a 35-year-old optometrist was extra careful about cleaning everything before it [...]
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Blog postIs a Trial Separation Right for You and Your Partner? A trial separation may have crossed your mind many times as you went through the stresses and strains of a relationship that often felt like a life sentence. You’ve probably had fantasies of a trial separation where you don’t have to give up everything forever [...]
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Blog postHow Worrying and Boredom Team up to Keep You Stuck Worrying and boredom are two of the most complaints I hear from clients, but more pronounced during the pandemic lockdown. Here are some of the remarks regarding worrying and boredom that have stuck with me: “I worry that my partner will make me the bad [...]
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Blog postDifficulty Mourning a Loss Stirs up Undigested Losses from the Past Difficulty Mourning a loss when the customary rituals of joining and supporting grieving family and friends are absent during a lock-down makes that loss harder to process. Difficulty mourning a recent loss brings up waves of loss and grief from previous losses, making you [...]
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Readers are given a ringside seat in the therapist’s office as Rick and Christy seek couples counseling with Dr. Raymond. After four years of marriage, one son, and continued efforts to get close to his wife, 30-year-old Rick is heartbroken at being shut out and kept out emotionally, no matter how hard he tries to connect. But when Christy storms out after two sessions, Rick decides to stick it out, motivated by Dr. Raymond’s certainty that he will discover the reasons for his wife’s coldness and recover the intimacy they’ve lost in their relationship.
As the sessions progress, Dr. Raymond helps Rick understand his desperation for emotional intimacy and why Christy constantly rebuffs him. The couple’s history and their life stories before they met are woven into a compelling narrative that explains the attraction that drew them together, while at the same time keeping them emotionally apart.
Dr. Raymond uses Rick’s deep experience of rejection to point out the similarities in the psychological defenses both he and his wife built to survive their painful childhoods. And though Rick is skeptical about the 10-step program that Dr. Raymond suggests to help Christy feel safe enough for intimacy, he is astonished to find that the strategies work!
Now You Want Me, Now You Don’t takes readers on a roller coaster ride of elation and disappointment as Rick’s hopes soar that he will save his relationship, then plummet as he’s overcome with frustration and threatens to quit therapy. This book gives readers a suspenseful and intimate glimpse into a couple’s life, as they wrestle with the thorns that pierce their idealistic bubbles and strive to regain the comfortable rhythm of emotional intimacy they had when they fell in love.
All schoolteachers are involved in pastoral care, either in their roles as form teachers or year tutors or more generally in their everyday contact with children. Pastoral care is a wide ranging area which involves amongst other things the building in children of social skills and a positive self-image in order to help them be well-motivated contributors to school life and to wider society. It also involves helping children cope with the stress of everyday school life, including examinations; familiarising them with school organisation; and helping children who have specific behaviour problems or personal crises. The book, originally published in 1985, surveys the whole field of pastoral care in schools at the time. It discusses the aims, methods and implementation of a successful pastoral care system. It reviews relevant theories and research work but throughout the emphasis is on practical matters, on helping teachers work out intelligently for themselves how they might improve their performance in this field.