- Paperback: 224 pages
- Publisher: ParentMagic, Inc.; 3rd edition (February 1, 2004)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 9781889140162
- ISBN-13: 978-1889140162
- ASIN: 1889140163
- Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.4 x 9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 1,531 customer reviews
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Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with more than 25 years of experience working with children and families. He is the author of All About Attention Deficit Disorder, Surviving Your Adolescents, Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder, and "I Never Get Anything," the winner of the 2002 NAPPA Parenting Resources Gold Award. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.
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I was first introduced to this book by my child’s pediatrician. They recommended this book b/c there were some serious attitude that had me concerned about my child at 18 months old. He would throw some serious fits to the point that he would develop a petechia rash on his face; he’d hit, bite, and pinch. I have no idea where he learned these awful behaviors from and I’m not gonna lie ~ it terrified me. I didn’t want to raise that kind of child, nor did I want to have that ‘kid’ in daycare. I wasn’t into the idea of spanking him. I felt that would just escalate the violence that he was already lashing out with.
So, after reading the book and careful consideration, we tried this form of discipline.
I’m not going to say that this book is the end all to bad behavior, nor is it some magical solution with raising a willful, stubborn child. My kid is almost 2 ½ yrs old, he is still constantly pushing his limits, and testing everything, and everyone. I’ve probably read this book once but I have refreshed/skimmed thru it several times in the past year. With saying that, idk if I’m in love with this book or if I just like it. My son still lashes out occasionally, but on less of an occasion that he did before. I’m giving it some more time, b/c it seems to be working… via the long route. But, who ever said that raising kids would be easy and full of short cuts?
While I do believe that every parent will have a different child with a different personality, this method might not be for everyone. But for us, right now, this is the method that we have chosen to go with and it seems to be working.
I also have downloaded and keep a summary pdf that I’ve found online of this book on hand for reference for baby sitters as well as family that I leave my child with.
I’m not sure if I’m allowed to leave this link here but if you google csgreeley.org 1 2 3 magic summary a pdf will come up – it’s 8 pages long and I feel like it’s the best way to make sure everyone that watches my child is on the same page as me. If they have questions, I encourage them to ask and even read the book.
It was recommended by our counselor. We now see a new counselor too.
I get setting limits. I also get counting and not giving in. But I also have compassion. I also want my kids to feel they are being heard and that it's ok to be upset, it's just not ok to be mean or disrespectful when upset. And this book doesn't teach that. It teaches that when you act in a way that I dislike, I'll make you go away. No matter how upset you are. No matter what happened. No discussion. No help working through emotions or reason.
The text was plain, entertaining, and effective. The graphic stories were spaced perfectly and emphasized the text. I will be recommending this book and technique to any other MOM-STERS who reach out to me for help!