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10-10-10: A Fast and Powerful Way to Get Unstuck in Love, at Work, and with Your Family Paperback – Bargain Price, April 6, 2010
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Any choice you make -any decision -will benefit from 10-10-10. We all want to lead a life of our own making. But in today's accelerated world, with its competing priorities, information overload, and confounding options, we can easily find ourselves steered by impulse, stress, or expedience. Are our decisions the right ones? Or are we being governed, time and time again, and against our best intentions, by the demands of the moment? A transformative new approach to decision making, 10-10-10 is a tool for reclaiming your life at home, in love, and at work. The process is clear, straightforward, and transparent. In fact, when you're facing a dilemma, all it takes to begin are three questions: What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes? In 10 months? And in 10 years? Sound simple? Not quite. Recounting poignant stories from her own life and the lives of many other dedicated 10-10-10 users, Suzy Welch reveals how exploring the impact of our decisions in multiple time frames invariably surfaces our unconscious agendas, fears, needs, and desires -- and ultimately helps us identify and live according to our deepest goals and values. 10-10-10's applicability is uniquely broad. Whether it is used by college students or busy mothers or senior business executives, artists, government administrators, or entrepreneurs, 10-10-10 has shown its effectiveness in decisions large and small, routine and radical, consistently changing lives for the better. Readers of O magazine discovered this pragmatic and innovative idea when Suzy Welch first introduced it in her column. Now, in this immensely useful and revelatory book, she fully explains the power of 10-10-10, a transformative idea that can replace chaos with consistency, guilt with joy, and confusion with clarity.
Suzy Welch on 10-10-10 Parenting
I'll never forget the first time my husband saw me use 10-10-10 with my four kids. It was back in 2001, and the six of us were standing around in the kitchen as I fixed dinner. Jack I and had just begun dating and, not surprisingly, the 11-and-under crowd was acting up. Finally, the shenanigans got so bad that Jack left the room, purportedly to check a baseball score.
And when he snuck back a few minutes later…tranquility had been restored.
"What the heck did you just do?" Jack whispered to me, incredulous.
"We just had a little conversation," I replied.
"You mean, you threatened them?" he suggested. I burst out laughing.
"Allow me to introduce 10-10-10, Jack," I said. "It’s how I raise my kids."
Today, 10-10-10 is how Jack and I--and thousands of other parents--bring understanding and joy into our families. It’s our philosophy and our practical guide. How? Well, 10-10-10 is a decision-making process. Applied regularly, it gives parents as a team a shared language to talk about choices and their consequences, in matters both major and mundane. It surfaces values and expectations. It diffuses crises; it teaches responsibility. Invariably, it increases trust. And best of all, it does so swiftly and with remarkable ease. Now, I realize parenting can’t ever be easy. But I assure you that 10-10-10 makes it easier. Indeed, you only have to see 10-10-10 in action once to discover, as Jack did back in the kitchen that day, that parenting can be transformed for the better, by how we decide to decide.
The Top Ten Facts of Life College Forgot to Teach You
1. Everything you think you know about your career will seem thoroughly amusing to you in a couple of years, if not sooner.
2. That's because, despite your best intentions at the moment and the desperate hopes of your parents, your career path will not be a straight line. Instead, it will zig and zag, over many years and rocky terrain, as you inch ever closer to the work you were--yes--born to do.
3. Such work will touch your soul, fill you with meaning, put you in daily contact with people who get all your jokes…and always feel just a little bit too hard.
4. You can find the work you were born to do more quickly and with much less angst if you know your authentic values from the get-go.
5. Discovering your authentic values is easy. All you have to do is ask yourself three questions that will make you squirm.
6. At the very same time that you are trying to make sense of your career, you will also be trying to figure out something even more important and more confusing. Love.
7. Despite your best intentions at the moment and the desperate hopes of your parents, your love life won't be a straight line either.
8. You can, however, find a happy ending more quickly and with much less angst if you understand the "The Theory of the Third Force" from the get-go.
9. Understanding "The Theory of the Third Force" is easy. All you have to do is come to grips with the fact that loving your partner isn’t enough. You have to love your relationship too.
10. Finally, as you make the crucial decisions that will help build your career and find love, remember this. School teaches you that life is about success. Life teaches you life is about happiness.
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Top Customer Reviews
The idea is this: before you make a decision, consider how it will affect you in ten minutes, ten months, and ten years. Shortly after I read this book, I was driving home from teaching class, debating with myself whether I should rush home to get back to work, or stop by the gym as planned for a 30-minute workout.
Using Welch's 10-10-10 idea, I realized that in ten minutes I might be feeling stressed about delaying work if I went to the gym. In ten months, though, I might see a difference in my health and energy level based on that decision -- but I probably wouldn't see a big difference in the success of my business if I went to the gym. In ten years? Regular exercise could make a huge difference in my health -- and I wouldn't want the level of intensity in my business that would have me unable to hit the gym regularly over the long term.
So I went to the gym.
Were you bored by that story? If so, then you're not going to get all the way through this book. However, if you like the idea and enjoy stories, you'll like it.
I love the idea.
Author Suzie Welch's 10-10-10 construct is a brilliant technique for aiding our decision making. It is simple, easy to implement, and appears to have the potential to be very effective (I have just started using it; hence the "potential" label). It is has the potential to be as impactful as the Sedona Method which has helped so many people to quickly release negative emotions.
For me, the book itself was not as brilliant as the technique. For sure, I highly recommend the book because of the brilliance of the technique. But, alas the book itself seems to come up a little short from the standard I try to consistently apply to those I award five stars. I did not find the stories to be as powerful as the technique. I think this is a result of the relative newness of the technique and the fact the author does not yet have the depth and breadth of stories that I am confident that she will accumulate over time, as more and more people use 10-10-10.
Notwithstanding my four star rating for the book, I highly recommend it as an introduction to a handy life management tool. If one couples this book with one of the many excellent books on "choices" (Helmstetter's "Life Choices" is my all time favorite), one has a powerful construct that the quality of our life is determined by the quality of our choices, and the quality of our choices is enhanced when we view our choices in the light of likely results on a short (10 minutes), medium (10 months) and long term (ten years) basis.
The book was very disappointing. I love the concept of 10/10/10 and feel it is a good idea. The development of it would have been more appropriate in a magazine article. It is not a "book-length" concept. The real world stories could all be summarized as wave the magic 10/10/10 wand and problem solved.
Before you buy it, read the intro on the Amazon site (I think there are about 5 pages). These 5 pages are VERY indicitive of the substance and detail of the entire book. Truly disappointing.
the rest of the book is just a constant reiteration of the paragraph above.
The author is well meaning, i am sure, but really, did it have to take this many pages and countless dead trees to say this?
hmmm... i wonder what the impact of me writing this will have in the next 10 minutes, 10 months, 10 years?
Okay, 10-10-10 is a pretty good idea. It's simple, straightforward, and can help people make decisions. Got that in the first couple of chapters.
The rest of the book? Example after example of people using 10-10-10. And not very amazingly, it did help everyone in every example to make a decision!
But I kept thinking, what happened after they made the decision? Ten minutes later, I'm sure they felt great. If someone is struggling with a problem, finally deciding on an approach to solving it is a huge relief. But what about 10 months later? What about 10 years later? Did these people feel as good about the decision? Did they actually make the right decision for themselves?
This is a pretty lightweight book. Life-transforming? Maybe for some people. Me, not so much.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
As the inside of the book jacket says: " What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes? In 10 months? In 10 years?"
That's it folks! Read more
I am not a fan of self-help books...this may be the one exception! Great idea/concept.Published 2 months ago by Dina R Cox
There is no real information here beyond the mere mention of the 10-10-10 method periodically. No info beyond that and how change can ruin relationships but lead to new ones. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Dr. Lorna
I love that Suzy Welch marshaled her talent and experience to write a practical book that serves people. Read morePublished 12 months ago by Caroline Greene
I give this book as a gift to friends. It has helped me make difficult decisions and opened my eyes to what is truly important. Thank you Suzy.Published 13 months ago by Linda Sanders
I agree with some of the other reviews that the concept was okay, but it did not deserve a book length. Read morePublished 14 months ago by Nhat Nguyen
Loved how simple a principle this is. From it's first discovery to all the stereotype principle at work, fascinating read. Read morePublished 16 months ago by Celia
I always go with my gut which serves me quite well, as it seems to have served this author, but she wanted something even better: if it ain't broke, don't fix it is my motto... Read morePublished 17 months ago by avataress