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by Jay Wiseman (Author)

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It goes by many names: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and more. In Jay Wiseman's SM 101, the long-taboo subject of consensual sadomasochism is accurately, insightful presented in the context of adult human sexuality, experience and tradition for the interested non-specialist general reader. SM 101 surveys the entire spectrum of consensual sadomasochistic practices from from bondage, to spanking, to erotic role-playing, and more. Now in an expanded second edition, SM 101 includes a new chapter on starting and running sadomaschistic organizations and events for consenting adults.

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Jason R. Sheats

Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2018

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This book is in dire need of an update. Not just because of the outdated references but because of how the world, and the community, views gender, sexuality and interpersonal relations. I understand that given the timing of original publication the world viewed BDSM differently than it does post 50 Shades, but the author's POV regarding feminism and it relationship to kink is almost painful to read.

There is relevant information in this book, particularly many things that folks would consider to be "common sense", but the book is almost painfully out of date and hard to read through to get to that information.

Side note, the Kindle version of this book is almost unreadable due to spelling and grammar errors. I had a friend cross reference the issues I had with their physical copy and the errors were not present in the physical text.

24 people found this helpful

Effective BDSM Primer

Reviewed in the United States on August 23, 2015

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This book should be regarded as the "original authority" or "an old classic" concerning BDSM.

People who should read this book include those who have recently discovered a new side of themselves, found a new partner who happens to be kinky, or have been in a relationship for along time, and would like to spice up their sex life.

The information in this book is thorough, and covers useful topics such as how to form romantic relationships, find a good partner (not necessarily a kinky one), the major types of BDSM play (bondage, flagellation, humiliation, dom and sub relationships, etc), and the sociological and psychological aspects of BDSM. There is a nice assortment of these general topics. The information isn't meant to be comprehensive because there is *so much* going on in the BDSM world, but it gives plenty of info to get started on. There are other books out there that focus on more specific BDSM topics, most notably bondage, because there are so many techniques, patterns, and knots out there. Readers can shop for and purchase more specific books after this one, when they figure out what they are most interested in.

The author (Jay Wiseman) is fairly old (66 as of when this review was written), and he wrote this book in 1992, with this edition being originally written in 1996. The major consequence of the book being this old is that the information and commentary on HIV (AIDS) in this book is outdated. HIV/AIDS back in the mid-90s was still somewhat mysterious, and the medical treatment for it was far less effective than today. Things have changed now, with AIDS no longer being a death sentence, so the discussion and comments about these things isn't so useful or relevant anymore. But the other info in the book will still be plenty useful. Just look for info on AIDS and AIDS safety from other more up to date sources, and ignore the comments in this book.

AIDS aside, this book does benefit a lot from Jay Wiseman's history of being a professional EMT for years. He is super conscious of safety concerns, and painstakingly explains all of the health and safety risks of BDSM. He explains why breath play is very dangerous, and how bondage and flagellation should be conducted to avoid acute and chronic injury, while having as much kinky fun as possible.

One more big thing that has changed since this book was published is that we have *really really good* internet now compared to back in the mid-90s. This means that finding kinky organizations and events isn't really hard anymore, and the addresses of the organizations in the back are less useful than a google search or some website names would be now. This doesn't really ruin the book, it is just outdated information in the Appendices in the back that isn't really useful anymore.

In terms of organization and writing, this book is very well assembled, contains few or no grammatical errors, and is concisely written. It also has fun/funny quotes of things that Jay Wiseman heard at BDSM meetings in the margins, and these make things fun for the reader.

In summary, I'm giving this four stars instead of five because a few sections of the book are outdated. Everything else about it is excellent. I would recommend that people new to BDSM try this book first, and then move onto more specific texts as their interests suit them. If you like this book, and want a second opinion about roughly the same subjects, try Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Miller and Devon.

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Jay is an expert and it really shows in this book

Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2020

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Whether you are just getting started in kink or consider yourself experienced, you NEED this book. In particular, you need to look at pages 67-77. Jay gives excellent advice, tips, techniques, safety precautions, and does so in an approachable and easy-to-read manner. If there's just one book you're going to pick up for your kink library, it needs to be this one.

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Outdated, But Still Useful

Reviewed in the United States on September 9, 2011

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This is a pretty good introduction for someone new to the BDSM scene, or someone on the outside who wants to know what all the fuss is about. The tone is casual, but professional, and Wiseman includes plenty of personal stories. I know anecdotal evidence isn't always the best, but it's a lot more effective to say "I personally know someone who was injured in this way," than to caution "If you do this wrong, such and such injuries might happen."

IMPORTANT: The book is several years out of date. Most of his advice is still good- paddles will still bruise less than canes, bound submissives are likely to fall on stairs, that sort of thing. HOWEVER: Wiseman frequently plays up the wonders of the spermicide nonoxynol-9, encouraging its use with anyone who isn't outright allergic to it. Nonoxynol-9 was believed to help limit the spread of STDs. This is the opposite of true. Nonoxynol-9 is irritating even if you aren't allergic, and the tiny lesions it causes may increase your chances of catching STDs, especially HIV. It's strictly for contraceptive use only.

The other key advancement made since the publishing of this book is silicone lubricant. Wiseman discusses the difference between water-based and oil-based, but now if you walk into your friendly neighborhood sex shop, you're more likely to find only water-based and silicone-based. Read up on the pros and cons of silicone- it's great stuff, but it does have some drawbacks- and definitely doublecheck whether or not it will stain any props you're using.

Lastly, this book is very much from the point of view of a straight man, and will be most useful (and least offensive) in the hands of other straight men and women. Wiseman seems to think Those Lucky Queers have got off easy with BDSM acceptance, and the Poor Unfortunate Heteros have to work much harder. He also considers bisexuality an alternative lifestyle, and blames over-the-top feminism for making women uncomfortable with submission (personally, I blame the vastly gender-disproportionate rates of sexual assault and abuse).

TL,DR version: overall, it's still a good book, but make sure you get up-to-date information on sexual health. The human body and psyche still work the same way, but the props available are a little different.

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Andrea Staton Cook

Fantastic book.

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 17, 2020

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Fantastic book, very useful reference for newbies and established kinksters alike.

regornomis

Brilliant

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 6, 2013

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This well written book deals in considerable detail with the difficult subject of BDSM. His matter of fact style and emphasis on safety were particularly illuminating. As a complete "outsider" it gave me a great insight into the world of BDSM and thoroughly demystified the subject. Anyone who thinks BDSM is whacky and way out out to be enlightened by Jay Wiseman; it's just sex after all!

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Must have book on any kinksters shelf in my humble opinion

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 11, 2016

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Very good, invaluable book for getting to grips with the basic essentials and helping to figure out what you want safely and with knowledge.

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