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About the Author

Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist in New York and California. His work in group settings has allowed him to develop comprehensive and effective tools for reducing stress and depression while increasing peace and happiness. His ideas uniquely combine psychological principles, social theories, spiritual perspectives, and media critiques. His writing brings these elements together in fresh ways in order to challenge and eliminate harmful ""shoulds."" He currently resides in Brooklyn, NY.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 148 pages
  • Publisher: Morgan James Publishing (November 1, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1600374492
  • ISBN-13: 978-1600374494
  • Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.4 x 8.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,343,022 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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By Dr. J. Davis Mannino on February 2, 2009
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I just completed my review of Damon L. Jacobs' new book "Absolutely Should-Less." Psychotherapists are omnipresent ---- everywhere! My father used to say they were a "dime a dozen." In today's society, they are as common as stars in the sky. But every once in a while, a star appears in the celestial universe that is bigger, more noteworthy, and shines brighter than all the rest. Such is that bright new star that answers to the name of Damon L. Jacobs.

It is not that I don't take issue with some of what Jacobs presents. While I think his pedagogical approach is faulty in some areas, he is on target with much of what he speaks.

Over 35 years ago, Werner Erhard and his Erhard Seminar Training workshops (EST for short) noted that "shoulds," were the booby prize. That is, they were basically counter-productive. Cognitive therapy, specifically "cognitive restructuring," notes that if we change the emotion of language we can change the narrative of our lives. Over the last two or three decades it has been hit and miss. The problem is language, semantics, linguistics, --- call it what you will --- has enslaved us all. We can choose to run from language, but after all, it is all we have. The run is futile and language tags right along with us wherever we go ---like that bully of a classmate at lunch recess.

Rather than flee from language --- and specifically the words we use --- perhaps it makes more sense to simply stop running from them. Accept them, and embrace the words and language we use. The better approach may be to simply defuse the power behind them. I don't believe refraining from word usage is all that helpful. I think the better approach is to defuse the power behind the words in our usage.
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What a wonderful gift this little book is! If you're uptight and Type A, serving many masters...this is an excellent source for helping you take a step back, breathe and recognize (as the author says) "life doesn't have to be that hard."

Interesting vignettes of patient/therapist dialogue help demonstrate Jacobs' techniques for realizing self-destructive behavior and offers new ways to look at the challenges we all face.

Well worth the read and perspective it inspires.
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I read this book last Spring and it helped me to re-evaluate many things in my life - some that were working and others that weren't. I realized other people were placing "shoulds" on me and I was putting most of them on myself. Thanks to Damon L. Jacobs and "Absolutely Shouldless" I began living a shouldless, and much happier, life.
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Absolutely Shouldless and Damon Jacobs' other book Rational Relating were major turning points in my life. You will see a major transformation when you start removing the "shoulds" in your life which hold us back in so many aspects of our lives. It's extraordinary. He writes with a clear, hopeful and humorous yet powerful voice. I've been a voracious reader of self-enlightenment books for the decade or so --- and this is in the top five. I highly recommend it as well as the author's other book I mentioned.
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A book that leads you to question 'shoulds' in every walk of life. I highly recommend this for anyone trying to think for themselves and to push beyond what society expects of you. This book helped remind me that I still have power & control over my reactions/actions in any situation and not fall into that trap of negative expectation or be manipulated by corporate America. Great book.
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Damon Jacobs has written a great little gem of a book. I found the takeaway messages from this book to be helpful as well as easy to understand and implement in everyday life. And while my life may not be "stress-free," it is better for having read this book.
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What a smart, accessible, helpful book. In these times when we all get twisted into pretzels by the daily "shoulds" Damon's words were thought provoking and comforting. I learned a lot and also felt like I was sitting with a friend who has my best interest at heart. I plan on sharing this one!
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Fantastic book to help you discover yourself and how to live your life more enjoyably and with less stress. I Highly recommend it!! Great tips for how to's!!
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