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Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence, 2nd Edition Paperback – February 24, 2009
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"I am grateful to Philip Cook for writing ^IAbused Men^R. This is a brave book…. [The author] brings to bear in this book his knowledge as a journalist and his evident care and compassion for all victims of domestic violence." (Erin Pizzey,Founder of Chiswick Women's Refuge,Author, Scream Quietly or the Neighbors Will Hear)
"This just might be the volume to get the message across finally that domestic violence is a human problem, not just a gender problem." (R.L. McNeely, Ph.D., J.D. Attorney, Professor of Social Welfare, University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee)
"Very thought-provoking and well researched. [This book] should aid in educating medical professionals regarding this potential diagnosis as well as help shape our legal approach." (Kenneth H. Coleman, M.D. J.D.^LAttorney at Law)
"Thought provoking research which will stimulate further inquiry into human behavior long neglected." (Ronald R. Still, M.S. Chief of Police (Retired), Portland, Oregon)
"Mr. Cook argues persuasively that we may be looking at only half the problem, and we're neglecting the needs of male victims. It also seems clear that much of Mr. Cook's work applies equally to abused people of either gender, and he offers practical suggestions for the abused. His solutions would impact all cases of domestic violence and are well worth our consideration." (Rob Solomon, Licensed Professional Counselor Author, Full-Esteem Ahead)
"Perhaps with this book, Philip Cook can accomplish what academics have for the past 25 years failed to do--to cut through the political rhetoric and finally present the case of abused men as a real social problem. Cook goes beyond the issue of battered males as he sheds incredible insight into the systemic problem of family violence. Perhaps now, couples experiencing violence in their relationships can be helped. His case material sadly brings to life the statistics researchers generate." (Reena Sommer, Ph.D., Assistant Professor, University of Manitoba, Family Counselor)
"I find ^IAbused Men^R most appealing because of the rigorous research upon which the findings are based. There is nothing that is not fully substantiated by data…I appreciate the balance achieved in addressing a topic, usually ignored, in an era of accusations and hysteria that often detracts from the actual aggression and violence that affects domestic relations. This book is a real contribution that will help in the education of all professionals in the field of sociology and mental health." (Stanley G. Sturges, M.D. Medical Director, CareMark Behavioral Health Services)
"Unique. The case materials presented are gripping, and need to be part of the historical and social record. It is a book likely to be helpful to many men, and if action is taken onthe agenda outlined in the final chapter, to our country as a whole." (Murray A. Straus, Ph.D. Co-Director Family Research Laboratory, University of New Hampshire)
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Eugen Lupri, Ph.D.
Professor Emeritus of Sociology
The University of Calgary
An extra pat on the back for the author on making his case for abused men while not discounting the seriousness of domestic violence (DV) against women, and without exaggerating the real amount of violence on either side. It would be fool-hardy to do the opposite, as many authors do, exposing their ignorance, bias, prejudice and even their own abusiveness to the victims of these sensitive issues, where revictimization often comes at the hands of "well-meaning" authors and officials. Though this book is 8 years old it is still very applicable today, as is the excellent and fairly well balanced 25 year old book, "Behind Closed Doors, Domestic Violence in the American Family," quoted by the author.
Had "Abused Men" been written today more could have been included to support the fact that male victims are beyond all doubt no less commonly (and severely) victimized as female victims, despite mis-drawn but often quoted conclusions from some not-so-balanced studies. Examples: The Department of Justice (DOJ) stats which the author quotes from the early 90's have since risen dramatically for male victims, as the eyes of some victim advocates are just starting to open. DOJ stats now concede that men comprise about 35% to 40% of all DV victims (a far shot from the then 8-15%), but closing the reality gap bit by bit. Most balanced and extensive studies reveal that younger women are up to twice as violent as younger men.Read more ›
Detroit velvet is in dire need of a reality check. If the men who are abusive can lie claiming abuse then why is it so impossible to assume that women who claim abuse may in turn be lying and in fact are the abuser?
I have to wonder how many women have physically, and mentally abused their male partners then when the partner left claimed the role of the victim instead.
Men don't tell because they face monumental obstructions by authorities and peers. Mentalities such as 'men love it' or 'you deserved it' or 'you're lying' or 'you're such a whimp, suck it up'.
I was kid and had a girl friend who beat and belittled me then would come back claiming she was sorry and loved me so I took her back, time and again finally I had enough and left. She claimed abuse. I NEVER HIT A WOMAN IN MY LIFE - EVER!
Later I had another girl friend while not a hitter was very verbally abusive, after having enough I left, and then another and another, all angry and some hitters.
Then I met my wife, who was very much a hitter, and extremely emotionally abusive. Again I never raised a hand to her or any woman.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Cook interviewed many workers from shelters and the rehab facilities for male abusers.
Shelter workers were, and still often are, trained to assume women are completely... Read more
I bought this for someone and he's learned so much from Cook. There really needs to be a focus on ALL domestic violence- not just violence against women. Read morePublished 11 months ago by praxtiprat
This is a must for understanding the extent of sexual abuse in the nation, not female, but male survivors.Published 13 months ago by Rayn Roberts
Unfortunately, the author of this book does not appear to understand the research on abused men. He is a reporter who does not appear to have any training to understand social... Read morePublished 17 months ago by crim law prof
This book is excellent. It gives so much information about the still under-studied and under-discussed issue of male victims. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Elizabeth
I was hoping that this book would provide a better definition of emotional domestic violence and how it can be identified. Read morePublished 22 months ago by anonymous
Disturbing, important information about women-on-men aggression. Well documented
and sensibly argued. Must reading for anyone interested in gender studies. Read more