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Acedia & Me: A Marriage, Monks, and a Writer's Life Hardcover – September 16, 2008
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Kathleen Norris had written several much loved books, yet she couldn’t drag herself out of bed in the morning, couldn’t summon the energy for daily tasks. Even as she struggled, Norris recognized her familiar battle with acedia. She had discovered the word in an early Church text when she was in her thirties. Having endured times of deep soul-weariness since she was a teenager, she immediately recognized that this passage described her affliction: sinking into a state of being unable to care. Fascinated by this “noonday demon,” so familiar to those in the early and medieval Church, Norris read intensively and knew she must restore this forgotten but utterly relevant and important concept to the modern world’s vernacular.
Like Norris’s bestselling The Cloister Walk, Acedia & me is part memoir and part meditation. As in her bestselling Amazing Grace, here Norris explicates and demystifies a spiritual concept, exploring acedia through the geography of her life as a writer; her marriage and the challenges of commitment in the midst of grave illness; and her keen interest in the monastic tradition. Unlike her earlier books, this one features a poignant narrative throughout of Norris’s and her husband’s bouts with acedia and its clinical cousin, depression. Moreover, her analysis of acedia reveals its burden not just on individuals but on whole societies— and that the “restless boredom, frantic escapism, commitment phobia, and enervating despair that we struggle with today are the ancient demon of acedia in modern dress.”
An examination of acedia in the light of theology, psychology, monastic spirituality, the healing powers of religious practice, and Norris’s own experience, Acedia & me is both intimate and historically sweeping, brimming with exasperation and reverence, sometimes funny, often provocative, and always important.
- Print length352 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherRiverhead Books
- Publication dateSeptember 16, 2008
- Dimensions6.75 x 1.25 x 10 inches
- ISBN-101594489963
- ISBN-13978-1594489969
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- Publisher : Riverhead Books; First Edition (September 16, 2008)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 352 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1594489963
- ISBN-13 : 978-1594489969
- Item Weight : 1.25 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.75 x 1.25 x 10 inches
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Kathleen Norris is the award-winning poet, writer, and author of the New York Times bestsellers The Cloister Walk, Amazing Grace, and Dakota: A Spiritual Geography, and Acedia & Me. A Benedictine oblate of Assumption Abbey for the past 30 years, Norris divides her time between Hawaii and South Dakota.
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At the same time, the book is autobiographical. We see episodes and hints from Norris' life, not all of which are obviously linked with acedia. It is personally engaging, however, as we share Norris' frustrations with an erratic, then, sickly husband. Some of the stories illustrate an unacknowledged counter to acedia's negligence. They also keep the book from being a boring study of "Acedia Through the Ages."
The result is a book that is not only instructed but inspiring. In other words, you'll not just be a smarter person having read it; you might be a better one.
The best thing the book does is re-inject the word acedia into the popular culture. It is a word we have needed for a while. Acedia is not a sin per se (although it can lead to sin), nor is acedia depression (which is a mental illness). This is especially valuable for people who may have a vague concept of Sloth or Acedia and may wonder if their clinical depression is a sin. (The answer is no.) There are points where symptoms intersect and the conditions are doubtless "comorbid" at times, and acedia is probably misdiagnosed as depression as well.
Other reviewers have found the length and apparent lack of organization a weakness. Do they not talk to people? The book is written almost as a conversation (not to mean a conversational style). There is a payload of information that comes in the person of the author. The topic of the conversation is acedia, but the conversation is leisurely, and, as the subject unfolds, it is frequently illustrated by episodes from her life. Sometimes it seems to wander off into interesting digressions before returning to topic. Perhaps it seems unfocused because it is biography mixed with the history of a concept. I am not a particularly fast reader, but I stayed up all night until I was finished. Perhaps that made it seem more like a conversation.
The only complaint I have about a book I enjoyed very much is a brief, but ultimately confusing discussion of depression. The author acknowledges this is dangerous subject. Part of the problem with writing a book about a word that has carried so many different meanings over the years is that we are sometimes not sure "which acedia" the author is discussing. The original sense was not the grief-stricken paralysis of clinical depression. The early monks suffering from acedia were described as restless and ready to bolt for greener pastures. That is more activated than one would expect to find in clinical depression. I believe there is plenty to explore in the original view of acedia as "the Noonday Devil" without contaminating it with later additions of melancholy and laziness. I think there is tremendous value in keeping acedia as a spiritual illness on one hand, and recognizing, on the other, that the mental illness of depression has its own spiritual elements and consequences. Today, we live in a world where your priest is likely to send you to a psychiatrist and your psychiatrist is likely to offer New Age spiritual exercises.
But that's just acedia for you. Slippery, confusing, shape-shifting and mind-boggling. Acedia is one demon that resists all attempts at capture. Norris may come closest than anyone in modern times.
Acedia is a topic that is difficult to understand---this is one reason that the author has taken an entire book to write an appropriately rambling and profound meditation about it. Acedia is sort of like depression in some ways, except that it's primarily a spiritual condition (unlike depression), but many people suffer from both (like me). Until I read this book, I was unable to name what my problem was, or even articulate the symptoms and the profound effect it has had on my life. Kathleen Norris has done this brilliantly in this study on acedia. It's more than just a study, though; it's a journey and an exploration interwoven with details about the author's life, descriptions and quotes from monastics, and insights into the creative process of the author and her husband David, who was a poet.
I see the audience for this book as intelligent, thoughtful, and creative people who struggle with depression and melancholy, who have a strong spiritual and psychological approach to life, and who are fascinated by the idea that wisdom from desert monastics could provide interesting insights that would help them to overcome a difficult orientation to life. This is a very personal book and deeply spiritual book. Although the author is a Benedictine oblate, I think that it would be of interest to people of diverse spiritual orientations.
Here is one quote that is particularly meaningful for me: "I was not aware that even as I maintained a busy and productive life, sloth, acedia's handmaid, had a firm grip on me. For I had become aware that it was possible to reject time, as well as embrace it. If I wanted to, I could live just barely, refusing the gift of each day...Acedia has come so far with us that it easily attaches to our hectic and overburdened schedules. We appear to be anything but slothful, yet that is exactly what we are, as we do more and care less, and feel pressured to do still more." [pages 12, 130]
Instead of reading this book, I've studied and savored it. I have been swimming in it for days, meditating on parts of it as I go about my life. I've postponed finishing it because I just don't want to leave behind the insights I get from reading it and the empathy I feel with the author. It isn't an easy book or a light read, but it is worthwhile, and life-changing for me.
Highly recommended.
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