- Paperback: 166 pages
- Publisher: Accidental Books (September 1, 2009)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0615305237
- ISBN-13: 978-0615305233
- Product Dimensions: 5 x 0.4 x 8 inches
- Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 22 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,226,273 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman: A Woman's Response to Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Paperback – September 1, 2009
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I'll bet you've got this idea of a man who is likely to do well with women. Rich, tall, muscular, spends a lot of time at the gym. Makes a lot of money and drives a flash car. Smart too, no doubt, "successful." He probably has other James-Bondish features as well; knows a lot about wine, dresses well, speaks two or three languages, well-traveled.
How can anyone compete with such a paragon? Clearly the only thing for the ordinary man to do is throw up his hands in despair and hope he can somehow attract the company of some bedraggled and cut-rate but halfway willing female, while the so-called paragons make off with all the fine women. Right?
Everything, literally everything you are thinking here is false. I don't know where these delusional James Bond fantasy figures come from (though I suspect they are transmitted mainly via the distilled insecurities of male screenwriters,) but it's all wrong. To begin with (and please remember, you're hearing this from a woman,) what women really think of overachieving self-infatuated guys who drive embarrassingly ostentatious cars and spend half the day adoring their own reflections in the gym, you know, well---we think they are liable to be absolute tools. We assume that this guy probably thinks he'd be doing me a big favor by asking me out--gross!
Even if such a guy is not really a big poser, but only "successful," as in super career-driven, the average woman is liable to think: he'll never be home; he's too busy for me; I'll be forever waiting by the telephone. I'll never come first with him. If we are not really materialists ourselves, a guy with too much money is apt to kind of scare us off, too. We worry that he won't like our friends, or like going to our favorite hole in the wall; that we will wind up stuck in some stultifying Four Seasons hotel all day while he goes and plays golf with a load of total creeps. And, worst of all: how many other women is this guy paying court to? Am I going to be just no. 8? Is this one of those Hefner scenarios because if it is, in the wise words of Sam Goldwyn, include me out.
So, in order to get girls into bed quite easily, does a man need to be rich? No.
Muscular? Certainly not.
Giant penis? NO.
Fancy car? Don't make me laugh!
All these absurd ideas about being a hit with chicks came not from women but from men, and still worse, from men who have absolutely no idea how women are constituted.
So first of all, you've got to clear your mind completely of every preconception you've been fed about women and what they want from men.
Let me begin by setting you straight on the main point:
It's not about you; it's about her.
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It claims to be advice, from a woman's perspective, on how to get a woman into bed. And it certainly covers this topic--mostly tongue-in-cheek--but it doesn't provide a whole lot of new information that an average-intelligence person could piece together on their own.
And intermingled in the "how to get women into bed" advice, is a lot of "how to not get weaseled into bed" advice (for women).
This book reads a lot like a stand-up comedy routine, albeit a rather wordy one. I must admit, I didn't read every page. Some sections I skipped, and some paragraphs I just skimmed. I felt like it got too wordy, and a bit repetitive at times.
If you want a humorous commentary on the differences between men and women, you will enjoy this book. If you're actually trying to get laid more, this book probably isn't what you want. But I hope you're more like me, and reading the book for a laugh, and not because you think you need a book to overcome some sort of ego or personality flaw.
And finally, the Kindle formatting is *horrendous!* The book keeps jumping between two typefaces--some times mid-sentence.
Useful too, once you understand that her frequent use of hyperbole is meant for emphasis, not literality.
Over the years, I've had several men friends reveal to me that they found it incredibly depressing (after the initial euphoria) to learn how easy most women really were -- even "nice girls." Yep, the truth is painful; however, like most agonies of the soul, it's also funny, and Ms. Bustillos makes hay with that (bless her).
This is a very naughtily effective how-to guide, a social commentary, and a surprisingly tender love-letter to love -- and no, it's not trying to talk anyone out of their quickies or into marriage (far from!). I'm not familiar with Steve Harvey's book (other than what's generally been said about it), but that didn't diminish the fun of "Act Like a Gentleman" for me; the book stands on its own. It is entertaining and quick, and it's so zippy and good-natured you almost don't realize until after the fact how sharp it is.
The big question for me is...do I let my teenaged son read this? (Ha, like I could stop him!)