- Paperback: 244 pages
- Publisher: Dell Lane Press (October 27, 2011)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0984738401
- ISBN-13: 978-0984738403
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,994,553 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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"Act Like a Man" shows real men speaking the real truth to each other. By doing so, the men deepen not only into their relationships with each other, but into self-understanding. People who read this book will understand the struggles of men much more completely.
Solin punctuates the meetings with stories of his own life events that helped him become the man he is. From having an abusive father to becoming a single father himself, to tragic losses and remarkable support from men in his group, the reader share's Solin's journey of growth.
You'll see how men develop ways to better relate to women, how they learn to manage strong emotions and how they tackle difficulties that come up when they become vulnerable.
I should disclose that I met Solin when he hired my company to make a video to promote another one of his books. We connected further because I have been in my own men's group for about 15 years.
While the book is compelling and colorful, it could have benefited from some copy editing. I cringe when I repeatedly see jargon such as "irregardless," and some paragraphs have the same word repeated, rather than the author finding synonyms.
However, these are minor faults; the book helps both men and women better understand the difficulties that men have in expressing feelings and connecting with other men. It is essential reading for men who are in their 30s, 40s and older and the women who relate to them.
Though I am a woman, it was extremely intriguing to enter this private world of men's emotions, conflicts, fears, etc. For some of these men, being vulnerable with other men would have been "suicidal" in the neighborhoods they grew up in. Yet as the years passed, "Everyone sat back and reveled in the recognition that we were a tight group of men all pulling our oars in the same direction--toward healing."
The men met a couple of times a month. There was no leader. They intentionally broke all the male taboos against being vulnerable, expressing feelings, hugging, etc. They discussed feelings, single parenting, women, dating, abusive fathers, tough childhoods, divorce, abandonment, intimacy, trust issues, boundaries, self esteem, and more.
We get a private peek into these lives, including how the author evolves from being in an S & M relationship to having a very healthy relationship with a woman he wants to marry. We learn how the group helps him when his son dies. One man confesses to the others how an early betrayal completely dissolved his trust in women.
The author explains that "Most of us were working diligently toward self-knowledge, self-improvement, better relationships with women, and greater sensitivity to and openness with each other."
He details how they all benefited from the group: "But every single one of us who dug deep, uncovered his demons, faced them head-on, and did the work, became a better husband, boyfriend, father, and friend. Every single one...Read more ›
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Lighthearted and humorous reading material. Good for a few laughs and repeated readings. Additional reading material downloaded to my Kindle unit.Published on March 3, 2014 by NJKID1010
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I did not realize that this was just another "self help" book,
or rather "this is the way you should live your life". No thanks!
I started this book in the morning and read straight through. I couldn't put it down. At times I felt nervous - like I was witnessing intimate moments that I had no right to see. Read morePublished on August 23, 2012 by Irene Conlan
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