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In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You To Know About Adoption. A Guide for Relatives and Friends. (Mom’s Choice Award Winner) Paperback – October 6, 2010
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Grandparents, siblings, friends, and so many others play vital roles in all families. But we haven’t always recognized how significant they can be – in special ways – when the family is formed through adoption. “In on It” is important because it affirms that significance, and celebrates it, even as the book offers valuable insights and practical advice. Adoptive parents will want to read it – and the people close to them really should.
Adam Pertman, Executive Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute and author of “Adoption Nation"
A guide for those who love the parents of adopted kids that is wise, embracing, comforting and useful. It sees beyond the natural defensiveness of those of us who've learned so very much through our adoption journey, and helps our friends and families, the ones who will love our children along with us, let go of what poignantly is not and take the hand of what gloriously is - Jacquelyn Mitchard, author of The Deep End of the Ocean and No Time to Wave Goodbye
Thoughtful and engaging, O'Toole here offers up easy-to-read practical advice for close friends and loved ones of a newly adoptive family. Her insights brilliantly compile the extensive current literature and thinking on adoption, yet all the while O'Toole maintains a supportive, conversant style. Adoptive parents will want a copy for every grandparent, aunt, uncle, cousin and friend who are about to be "in on it." - Kate St. Vincent Vogl, speaker at national and international adoption conventions, author of Lost & Found: A Memoir of Mothers
Excellent. Practical and sensitive wisdom for anyone supporting a loved one’s adoption process. --- Corrie L. Wold, MSW, LISW, Information and Education Director, Children’s Home Society and Family Services, Minneapolis
Elisabeth O’Toole addresses the complex and emotional experience of adoption with humor and respect, opening a path for friends and relatives to become insiders to the process. In On It is a well-written resource for people who want to support their loved ones, but aren’t always sure what to do or say. This book will remain on my “recommended reading” list for adoptive families and their friends. --- Janna Annest, adoptive parent and adoption law columnist, Adoptive Families Magazine
Elisabeth O'Toole's clear, insightful, and comprehensive guide to adoption is written expressly for and to a readership generally overlooked: the extended family and friends of new adoptive parents. Grandparents and neighbors anxious about what to say or do will be heartened by this fine book's conversational tone and generous spirit. They'd be wise to accept the welcome into "the adoption circle" that In On It extends. And adoptive families will be glad they cared enough to read it.---- Cheri Register, author of "Are Those Kids Yours?" American Families with Children Adopted from Other Countries and Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children."
When someone you care about decides to adopt, you become part of the “circle,” too. With that perspective, this warm guide for friends and family sheds light on what the process is like for your loved ones, and how you can support them along the way. This is a great resource to offer when you share the news that you’re adopting. -- Adoptive Families Magazine.
This is THE GIFT for your friends and family so they can understand and support your adoption journey. All I can say is that we are very lucky that Elisabeth O'Toole wrote this book because she really gets what this experience is all about, and coaches those you love to get it too. -- Joni Mantell, Executive Director, The Infertility and Adoption Counseling Center
In On It is a great way to help friends and family better support and understand the adoption process. I love it. If you have someone in your life who is adopting, you should read it. -- Kristin Howerton, blogger, Rage Against The Minivan.
About the Author
Elisabeth O Toole is a writer and mother of three children through adoption. She holds degrees from Northwestern University and Colorado State University and her professional experience includes roles in business, education, and with non-profit organizations.
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This book should be on the shelf of every adoptive family.