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About Alberto Vezendi
A rolling stone gathers no moss. In 1979, at the age of six, Alberto Vezendi was uprooted from the Great Hungarian Plain and planted in Spain, amidst the wonderful beaches and sharp peaks of Asturias. However, instead of roots he grew wings, spread them wide and spent his summers travelling around Europe, mostly on his own, until he finally soared away from the nest.
He left Spain in 1998 after graduating from university with a BA in English philology and a master's degree in conference interpretation, and settled in Paris. There he started a career as a conference interpreter that would take him to more than thirty countries around the world.
For the next fifteen years his life was divided between France, Belgium, Hungary and Spain, until in 2013 he landed on the serene shores of Lake Geneva, where he still lives today.
In 2018, after twenty years of being somebody else's voice, he decided to be his own and embarked on a new journey as a writer and photographer. These books are the first steps on that journey.
For more information on my books and photographs visit: https://vezendi.com
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Below are the three first reviews on my book: "Looking for Happiness? Look Inside!":
"I found the book very inspiring and helpful with its practical examples on how to live a happier life. I found the ideas in the book thought provoking encouraging me to take a step back, look at my life and really think through what's important and what's not. I enjoyed the stories from Alberto's life, those are the best parts of the book, particularly the one that closes the book making me feel impatient to change something!"
Peter Vass, Switzerland
"Inspiring and fundamental! I loved the book."
Ignacio Inda Caro, Spain
"One man's journey turns into everyman's quest for happiness. Heartfelt, beautifully written, a good read."
László Vértes, Hungary
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¡CAMBIA TU FORMA DE PENSAR Y CAMBIARÁ TU FORMA DE SER!
¿Pensamientos intrusivos? ¿Falta de autoestima? ¿Reflexiones circulares? ¿Negatividad?... La solución está en tu mente.
Tras veinte largos años de silencio he decidido compartir en este libro la lucha que en mi juventud tuve que librar contra la anorexia, con la esperanza de que mi ejemplo negativo ayude al lector a reconocer y evitar los pensamientos perjudiciales, ya que cada pensamiento, por anodino que parezca, determina nuestra realidad.
No podemos escapar de nuestra mente, pero sí podemos aprender a controlarla —única forma de ser realmente nosotros mismos, libres, en vez de esclavos de las circunstancias—; y nuestra libertad es el mayor don que tenemos, con toda la responsabilidad que ello conlleva, pues de nosotros depende ser artífices de nuestro destino, o meros títeres a merced de la voluntad ajena.
Sin autoestima no hay autonomía ni independencia. La pérdida de la autoestima nos lleva a convertirnos en meros imitadores, con el doble problema de que con ello dejamos de ser nosotros mismos y empezamos a depender de la opinión de los demás. Consecuentemente, nos esforzamos desesperadamente en buscar la felicidad en el exterior, a menudo en la aprobación de los demás, búsqueda inútil y abocada al fracaso.
Finalmente, toda felicidad exterior —es decir, toda felicidad que no depende de nosotros— está, por definición, fuera de nuestro control: de ahí que toda felicidad exterior sea imperfecta, pues es indisociable del temor a que nos la quiten. Es entonces cuando la ansiedad, el miedo, el estrés y la inseguridad invaden nuestra mente, generando un circulo vicioso que nos hace todavía más dependientes y menos libres.
La solución radica en aprender a aceptarnos tal como somos, en aprender a apreciar nuestro valor, en reconocer que cada uno de nosotros es único e irremplazable. Solo cuando nos hayamos aceptado plenamente, con todos nuestras cualidades e imperfecciones, podremos avanzar en el hermoso camino del autoperfeccionamiento, con el objetivo de ser mejores personas, día a día, sin dejar de ser nosotros mismos.
Espero que este libro os ayude a encontrar ese camino.
This book carries a message of hope for all: that a better life is possible, regardless of your situation, and that you already have everything you need to live it. It’s all there in your mind.
With this book, the author seeks to inspire readers to be themselves, take control of their lives, and live a purposeful existence, instead of living at the mercy of other people's wishes.
However, none of that can ever be achieved until we learn to see our real self, and ultimately accept ourselves as we really are, and not as others expect us to be. Page after page, readers will witness the fall, the awakening, and the rise of the author, and join him in his inspiring journey from self-destruction to self-actualization.
After twenty long years of keeping it secret, the author reveals his painful personal experience as a young anorexic male in the hope that this will help readers avoid falling into a trap created by their own mind. He also shows us that, even in our darkest moments, there shines an inner light that can guide us to happiness.
That light within is called life, and it's the only light that can guide us to happiness. But it's a light that can only shine in the present, and this book is a challenge to live fully that ephemeral moment we call "now" in which your entire life takes place.
"I went from having a carefree joy-filled life to falling into the depths of intellectual and physical misery, where death became my only companion, and then rose from my own ashes to become a better person than I ever was before.
For twenty years, I rode on a fairly tolerable rollercoaster of elation and melancholy. But one day something went wrong. I flew off my seat and began to plummet into the darkest abyss of my mind on a freefall of anorexic self-destruction. The disorder dragged me into the depths of abject misery, until I hit rock bottom. That was the turning point: I had to choose between construction and destruction, between living and dying.
I chose to live.
Imminent death brought me back to life and also lifted the veil from my eyes, exposing to me my real self. I had to accept that the pathetic anorexic living corpse I saw before me was no one but myself. Not the false attractive image of myself I was imagining through the lens of more than twenty years of unremitting conditioning, combined with the much deeper distortion caused by anorexia, but my real self at last.
Accepting myself as I really am meant the beginning of a new life — the first step in the long journey to rescue the wreck that I had become, rehabilitate it into a man, and rise to a new existence of conscious bliss."
There's no better time than now to break the spell that binds us to a life of zombie-like aimless roaming, like animated corpses; no better time to tear to pieces the bandage that blindfolds our eyes, preventing us from seeing the paradise we’re living in; no better time to start living the life we were meant to live: a life of freedom, of bliss, of self-realization.
The decision is in your hands. Follow the illuminated path laid out in this book, and start living the life you desire and deserve.
The magic is in you: just open your heart and you’ll see it.
Do you believe in self-improvement?
Do you think you could be happier?
IF YOU DO, THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!
Learn to overcome the two main obstacles to happiness: attachment and anxiety. You already have all you need: the solution is inside; let this book help you find it now!
Why squander our life – the only one we have – in a permanent state of want and anxiety when we can live a life of abundance and bliss?
Why make our happiness depend on externalities when the only truly lasting happiness is inside each one of us?
Why sacrifice the happiness we could be enjoying today on the altar of a vague promise of future bliss when we already have everything we need to be happy in the present?
In this work, the author shows us how to overcome the two main obstacles to happiness: attachment and anxiety. Readers will see that detachment and the ability to stop worrying are neither gifts of the chosen, nor inborn talents reserved for a few, but skills that can be learned at any moment in life, regardless of our situation.
In the first part, on attachment to objects and people, the author explains how attachment inevitably leads to fear, and that fear is incompatible with happiness. He examines the role of craving and desire, of want and satisfaction, of control and freedom, of possessions and love – and we’ll see that precious little is needed to live a happy life.
In the second part, we’ll delve into what is probably the main cause of unhappiness: anxiety. We’ll see that most of the worry that taints our happiness is unjustified because it stems from adversities that only exist in our mind. To understand this reasoning, the author analyzes how we create all our expectations and fears in the present, how we project them into a future that is no less a product of our own imagination, and how we then await with apprehension the arrival of that future in which we have placed our hopes and misgivings.
Happiness is not an unattainable dream, not even a future goal we’re doomed to pursue forever in vain, but a natural, innate gift we’ve all been endowed with. We have now, and always have had, all the happiness we’ll ever have, but we don’t allow it to bloom in our lives because we’ve unconsciously buried it under an ever-thickening layer of impediments that prevent it from manifesting every day of our life.
This book is here to help you find your happiness, but to do so it has to challenge many of the received ideas and dogmas that for centuries have condemned humanity to unhappiness. Please read it with an open mind, and consider with fairness whether the ideas contained herein make any sense for you.
Your happiness is in your own hands, and nowhere else, for only you can make it real.
The solution is inside: discover it and let the magic happen!
Don't wait until it's too late: it's now or never!
Une riche leçon de vie, accessible et dénuée de menaces ou de dogmes, simplement un chemin inspirant.
Ce livre se veut le porteur d'un message d'espoir : qu'une vie meilleure est possible, quelle que soit votre situation, et que vous avez déjà tout ce dont vous avez besoin pour la vivre. Tout est en vous.
On entre en anorexie comme on entre en religion. Il faut s’y donner corps et âme, toujours faire plus pour satisfaire l’ogre qui est en nous, sans jamais y parvenir. Toujours plus maigre, coûte que coûte, telle est sa devise.
Puis un jour, dans un état proche du suicide, après des années de souffrances inutiles, le cerveau ressent un déclic miraculeux : « Arrête ! Tu vas mourir ! » Commence alors le long chemin vers une lumière différente, sa propre lumière.
C’est ce parcours que l’auteur nous conte, sans pathos et avec réalisme, en décrivant précisément les étapes, le cheminement de la pensée, la lente descente aux enfers, le refus dela vie, puis la résurrection. L’auteur veut partager cette renaissance car il la sait désormais possible pour tous. Comment ? En regardant les choses différemment, en leur donnant un autre angle, tout est en nous.