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Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child Paperback – September 11, 1991
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About the Author
Laura Davis is the author of The Courage to Heal Workbook, Allies in Healing, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, and I Thought We'd Never Speak Again. She teaches writing and lives with her family in Santa Cruz, California.
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Top Customer Reviews
The question and answer format makes it very user friendly. Read it cover to cover, or just pick it up when you feel puzzled.
As the author suggests, I read it first and found that it gave me words to explain some topics that I thought I'd never be able to express. Sharing this book with my fiance was not easy. But it drew us closer together and opened the door for wonderfully insightful discussion. It also gave me insight into what it is like for someone in a relationship with me. I learned to be more patient and compassionate. Understanding the after effects of childhood molestation are not simple or easy, not just for me, but also for my partner.
I love that Davis very forthrightly says that while not every relationship will thrive, there are wonderful benefits to being with a survivor. The partner is encouraged NOT to rescue or "fix" but rather to respect and grow with the survivor, perhaps even getting more in touch with their own wounded inner child and most importantly to get support for themselves.
For anyone who is an ally of a survivor, this should be in your collection for sure! I turn to it again and again just as I do my now ragged copy of The Courage to Heal. It is not for the timid however. One should be serious about their relationship before sharing this book.
It is a good book, if your partner is well into the healing process. I don't recommend this book if your partner has just begun healing. If they've just started healing, read this as a companion book to Ken Graber's _Ghosts in the Bedroom_. I found some of the sections in _Allies in Healing_ helpful and enlightening. But when I got to the sections dealing with sex my heart sank. To be told to get used to being a nun/monk is more than a little disheartening.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Recommended to me by a doctor, this book is very helpful for those going through a trauma. I would recommend it to anyone who needs this kind of guidance.Published 3 months ago by Tiffany C
This book is very helpful. It was recommended by a marriage counselor that my partner and I were working with. Read morePublished 3 months ago by For me to know, not you!
Great Book, this is my second copy. I lent the first out and never got it back.Published 3 months ago by John G.
upon receiving my copy of the book there was a tear on my book which was seal...Published 6 months ago by alicia
Very readable, very helpful in understanding my abused friend.Published 13 months ago by The Guy with the Dogs
Word! This speaks the truth- painful as it may be to some who have forgotten what their life contained.Published 13 months ago by richard schickel