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The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life Paperback – September 2, 2004
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— from the Foreword by Frank Minirth, M.D.
"Les Carter has assimilated his years of experience counseling people trapped by anger into a book that I believe will prove helpful to many readers. The Anger Trap offers fresh information and understanding that can lead to recovery and reconciliation."
— Zig Ziglar, author and motivational speaker
"Have you ever looked in a mirror and said 'I don't like what I see!' This book reflects a number of myths we 'wear' and shows us how to trade them in for the real truths."
— June Hunt, radio host of Hope for the Heart
"The best book on anger out there. Five stars!"
— Dr. Tim Clinton, president, American Association of Christian Counselors
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Now comes, I believe, Dr. Carter's "magnum opus." One of the values of The Anger Trap is that Carter not only identifies anger and it's nature, but deals with the root causes (such as fear, loneliness, rejection, insecurity, and especially pain.) "Angry people are hurting, fragile people," Carter points out. And, "At the heart of anger is a cry for respect." But, to me, one of the most insightful observations Carter makes is, "As illogical as it may be, it can seem to outside observers that chronically angry people have a strong commitment to keeping distasteful emotions alive." Carter encourages us to deal with these underlying causes if we are to have any kind of meaningful victory over anger.
The chapter on dependency and hidden insecurity (Chapter 6: "Insecurity's Hold on Angry People") is especially interesting and illuminating. In this chapter Carter discusses how angry people are so busy trying to make others take responsibility for their own emotional stability that they stay stuck in the anger they want to be free of.Read more ›
This book has been life-changing for me. I heartily recommend it to anyone trying to come to grips with their destructive anger-related behaviors.
Let me tell you why: The book is pretty much a collection of mundane stories about "real" clients of the author with insight into their troubled childhoods, past fears, etc. and how those past traumas have left them with anger issues. It is classic blame-it-on-your-unfortunate-past psycho-babble with very little advice on how to deal with anger in the here and now, regardless of what the causes may be.
If you suffer from anger issues and really want to deal with them, the last thing you want to do is waste time reading cliche' stories of other individuals' bad relationships with their parents or spouses. Instead, I recommend an approach like that of Anger Busting 101 by Newton Hightower because it provides immediate steps to take to begin resolving the problem, without all the needless delving into the "root" of anger. And no, I am not a shill for Hightower, just a consumer trying to prevent others from making the same mistake I did.
My only beef with the premise (it's always something...) is that the author goes with the idea that anger comes from past problems. Grow up with a dad who yells or hits and you'll yell or hit. However, there are many studies that show that a violent home does not necessarily beget a violent child, a calm home does not beget a calm child. Just as anxiety can run in families or depression, might not problems such as overreaction to stimulus? If the dad is a yeller, perhaps it is his genes that pass on the anger and not his yelling. Otherwise, why don't all people from certain types of parents exhibit the behavior? I bring this up, because it is easier to face the problem sometimes when there is no one to blame (except perhaps God, if you lean that way). Rather than bemoan the mess a parent has made of one, it might be better to treat it as a limp that runs in the family but was not bequeathed with any malice. You have the limp, now figure out how to walk with it. You have the temper, now figure out how to respond to life as a decent human being with it.
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Very well written, rational, Christian, sensible, deep; it should be required reading for all ages. Well recommended.Published 1 month ago by Frank
Did not realize, but it will not play in my cd player??? Not sure if I am doing something wrong??Published 2 months ago by Patrick C. O'brien
Very easy to understand, as many psychologists can make feelings very complicated when discussing. He is clear, but I tired of all the couples examples evev though I am... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Wind Sock @ RedTop Landing