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The Art of Extreme Self-Care: Transform Your Life One Month at a Time Hardcover – January 1, 2009
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In 1994, Richardson saw a coach, Thomas Leonard, who introduced her to the concept of Extreme Self-Care. Extreme self-care is for women like Richardson once was; women who took on the role of caretaker to their detriment. She writes: "I was a good girl, and it was sucking the life out of me."
The following are some of the concepts of Extreme Self-Care:
* Surround yourself with people who give and take
* Eliminate clutter
* Create a soul-nourishing work and home environment
* Get finances in order
* Don't make commitments based on guilt or obligation
* Make pleasure a priority
There are 12 chapters and Richardson encourages the reader to tackle one chapter a month.
Each chapter is filled with her personal stories. It is obvious Richardson has worked through each chapter herself. She even presents her own list of things she will never do, for example.
She wrote about her experience on Oprah with Louise Hay and others on the subject of the Law of Attraction. Hay recommended looking in the mirror and saying "I love you" to yourself every day. Richardson liked the advice and writes about her experience doing that in the book.Read more ›
Some people may think "extreme self-care" sounds like a selfish concept; but as Cheryl explains, when we learn to care for ourselves deeply, we naturally begin to care for others in a healthier and more effective way. In fact, if we always put others first out of guilt or obligation, it can lead to resentment which doesn't benefit us or those we love.
Throughout the book, she shows us through personal stories what obstacles stand in the way of self-care. For instance, she notes she used to be an "automatic yes machine" when people asked for help because she wanted people to like her and she didn't want anyone to disapprove of her. She learned the hard way why that doesn't work and offers tips on how to respond to requests for help through a 3-step process of (1) buying some time, (2) doing a gut check, and (3) telling the truth directly with grace and love if it is necessary to say no.
This is a short and wonderful book that provides 12 ways to practice self-care, gives examples of each, issues a 30-day challenge for each principle and offers additional resources at the end of each chapter. It would make a great gift for yourself or someone you love.
Did you know that you don't have to suffer daily just because the economy is bad, your promotion prospects are bleak, and the television keeps reporting exceptionally discouraging news? Cheryl Richardson has the right view . . . that life can be a pleasure and from that pleasure you can bring much happiness to others.
She realizes that you probably have lots of bad habits that make you miserable and suggests one change a month that cumulatively build to create the kind of enjoyable life that may exceed your wildest hopes. The changes are couched in gentle, friendly terms and illustrated with breath-taking photos.
Ms. Richardson describes how hiring a personal coach changed her life and taught her the lessons in this book. If you just follow this advice, it's like saving hundreds of dollars to get valuable secrets.
In the first month, you identify where you are deprived (such as in sleep, emotional support, personal time, energy, companionship, peacefulness, hope, and physical closeness) and start eliminating those deprivations that are most important to you.
In the second month, you begin to approve of yourself more through a series of mirror exercises where you tell yourself, "I love you."
In month three, you learn how to say "no" and do it nicely.
In month four, you re-schedule your life to feel more comfortable and do important activities that make you feel great at the optimal times.
In month five, you offload a lot of what keeps you overly busy, annoyed, and stressed by "letting go."
In month six, you decide what you will never do again . . . all of those things that make life a drudge and an annoyance.Read more ›
The group comprises women aged approx. 25-45, able-bodied, heterosexual with a husband/partner and children at home; well educated women with professional (traditional) work and with access to the Internet; women who accept gendered concepts of facials/fashion/pampering.
For this group, the "insiders", the book will resonate strongly and be applicable to their lives.
For the many women outside of that group, for most men and for most minorities the book will not resonate. They would frequently need to modify advice to make it relevant to their own lives. This group of "outsiders" will often have the feeling that they are reading about a private club to which they do not belong.
There is no doubting CR's complete sincerity or the excellence of some of the advice but it is a great pity that she does not write for the general public and does not take into account the diversity and inequalities in society.
Footnote: Approach the resource lists with caution. Some of the books and websites are decidedly eccentric and consequently unhelpful. None of the books listed in the first edition has a publisher, publication date or an ISBN number given. This can make locating a book difficult, especially for overseas readers.
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This book, at times, can be difficult to read. This is because you will have to give up certain behaviors that you are used to. Read morePublished 1 month ago by JustReading2008
This book was a class requirement and frankly I am offended by its simplicity and ignorant discrimination. Read morePublished 3 months ago by RemiGoose
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