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The Art and Power of Being a Lady Reprint Edition

3.9 out of 5 stars 77 customer reviews
ISBN-13: 978-0802139412
ISBN-10: 0802139418
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About the Author

Von Mueffling is a journalist who has written for major newspapers and magazines and has produced for television news. She cofounded the nonprofit AIDS education foundation Love Heals.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Grove Press; Reprint edition (August 27, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0802139418
  • ISBN-13: 978-0802139412
  • Product Dimensions: 5.6 x 0.2 x 7.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (77 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #186,696 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Format: Paperback
Many of the previous reviewers of this book seem to believe this is all "common sense". Is it? How many times have you been annoyed by a woman on a cell phone talking so loud, everyone within fifty feet could hear her? How about a woman cutting in line in the supermarket? How many times have you listened to or even took part in spreading gossip? I don't think this is common sense, otherwise there wouldn't be so many instances of rudeness and self-absorbtion these days. This is a very sharp little book. One not only for young women. Believe me, there are plenty of thirtysomethings, and even fortysomethings who could learn a lot from what is written here. The introduction is wonderful. Right on target! There are tidbits on fashion and throwing parties, but the emphasis of this book is on behavior. It is a sad fact that good manners and courtesy are becoming more and more rare in today's world. For that very reason, this book is a wise buy.
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This is not a rule book for Miss Porter's wannabees but rather an insight on integrity, dignity and being a better person. This book was well written and logically sub-divided by appropriate subject subject content. While a lot of the advice is common sense, I felt re-aligned with the guidelines for appropriate behavior, especially regarding getting and maintaining respect in the workplace and being a better person in general. This book will stay on my shelf as a constant reminder of how I would like to be perceived and how I should adhere to these 'lady-like' standards.
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I bought this book and read it in about three hours. I was interested from the beginning to the end. Although these women are brilliant writers, this book is written for a teenager rather than an older woman trying to learn etiquette or using this book as a guide. The authors are no doubt true ladies, nevertheless, they mention that if a person wanted to learn real etiquette, buy Emily Post's Etiquette. Also, this book has an abundant amount of praise for the stars or famous people and about how these famous women are truly ladies, which I skipped over because I found it boring and frivilous, it almost seemed as a kind of name dropping although, not quite. I would also like to add that famous people may seem to be ladies, however, we really do not know them personally and I think that one must know what a person is really like before they put them in the category of being a lady. I would definately recommend this book for young women but not as a guide for etiquette. I would buy this book for the introduction alone. It is the best written introduction for a book that I have ever read. I also bought Emily Post's Etiquette, by Peggy Post and It is a wonderfully graceous book that any person and a standing true lady can learn from.
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I was very turned off by this book for many reasons. The authors seem to confusion what being a lady is with simply being a strong woman. Sure you can be both, but being able to check your oil and balance your check book have nothing to do with good character and social grace. I am a female military member and I have been successful in truly what is a man's career for the past 12 years. I know what it means to be a strong woman and yet I have maintained being a lady because of the way I was raised. In my opinion the authors made it seem that every woman is a lady, which discounts what it truly means to be a lady. The authors also condone one night stands...that is correct these women say it is ok for a LADY to have one night stands. There is also mention of wearing snake skin mini skirts at clubs, fish net stockings and knowing when to have a keg at a party. None of which would be considered lady like where I am from. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and mine is the authors have NO IDEA what it truly mean to be a real lady, modern strong feminist woman maybe, but not a lady. I gave the book to a friend who wanted to read it for herself...I told her not to worry about returning it.
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By A Customer on April 9, 2003
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I'm sorry to say I was very disappointed with this book. It's basically just common sense advice we've all heard thousands of times with nothing new to speak of. The writing is so humdrum it just didn't hold my interest. More highly recommended books: Three Black Skirts, The Bombshell Manual of Style.
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By A Customer on May 6, 2004
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You can learn how to set a table for high tea or how to word a classical wedding invitation from Emily Post. But what is a "lady" in the twenty-first century? Is being a lady even relevant anymore?
This handy little guide makes etiquette accessible for the modern lady. Being a lady doesn't mean requiring smelling salts or using bland flowery language all the time. It's about handling a crisis with grace, turning people down with polite elegance, and yes, even swearing - with class.
Simple enough for young readers, yet relevant enough for Grown Women who like the sound of the word Lady, this is among the best etiquette books for today.
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By t on January 30, 2012
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I think while some of the negative reviews have some merit - doesn't teach you how to set a table, encourages "when to have a keg" at a party, and other things people seem to get up in arms about because they're "not ladylike" - basically what I took away from this book was this: if we are women in a man's world who are expected to act like men at work and be on par with the boys in order to succeed, when do we "act like men" and "act like a lady." While this is not your old southern girls guide to how to be a lady, they offer some valuable tips. If you want to learn how to set a table and throw a dinner party, don't go this way. The key was their guide to integrity. I think it's a great read for a modern woman who has to take care of herself and "act like a man" in a lot of ways, but how to be a lady when and where it counts.

I knew this book was great at this very moment: I've been reading a lot of books on ladylike behavior (Emily Post, Miss Manners, guides to table settings, parties, etiquette in different formal/semiformal settings, etc) which have all been immensely helpful - I recommend you read these as well for traditional manners and other info! - but this book cast a whole new (alarming) light when I was watching my usual "trash" reality TV. Suddenly, after reading the description of how a woman has integrity, acts with grace, always says "please" and "thank you," gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and behaves gracefully, always giving a smile even when she's "mad" (she takes a deep breath, counts to ten and lets it roll off her shoulders, not stooping to their level), I was instantly disgusted by the behavior of the women I saw on these shows that once before had entertained me. Their behavior was certainly unladylike. Something just clicked. Can't necessarily put it into words, but I recommend this book indeed.
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