Enter your mobile number below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
Getting the download link through email is temporarily not available. Please check back later.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.

Qty:1
  • List Price: $21.95
  • Save: $9.54 (43%)
FREE Shipping on orders with at least $25 of books.
In Stock.
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.
The Assertiveness Workboo... has been added to your Cart
FREE Shipping on orders over $25.
Condition: Used: Good
Comment: This item is in good condition. All pages and covers are readable. There are no stains or tears. Dust jacket is present if applicable. May contain small amounts of writing and/or highlighting. Spine and cover may show signs of wear. May not contain supplementary items. We ship within 1 business day. Big Hearted Books shares its profits with schools, churches and non-profit groups throughout New England. Thank you for your support!
Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See all 2 images

The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships Paperback – December 30, 2000

4.6 out of 5 stars 104 customer reviews

See all 5 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Price
New from Used from
Kindle
"Please retry"
Paperback
"Please retry"
$12.41
$12.40 $4.54

The Amazon Book Review
The Amazon Book Review
Author interviews, book reviews, editors picks, and more. Read it now
$12.41 FREE Shipping on orders with at least $25 of books. In Stock. Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.
click to open popover

Frequently Bought Together

  • The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships
  • +
  • Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others
  • +
  • When I Say No, I Feel Guilty
Total price: $26.51
Buy the selected items together

Special Offers and Product Promotions


Editorial Reviews

Review

“Assertiveness problems—including excessive unassertiveness, aggressiveness, and passive-aggressiveness—afflict millions of people, leading to suffering and undermining potentials for happy, fulfilling lives. In The Assertiveness Workbook, Dr. Randy J. Paterson combines science and clinical experience to create the definitive guide for overcoming assertiveness problems. Blending wisdom, wit, and compassions, this sophisticated yet highly readable volume shows people how to improve their assertiveness in a structured, step-by-step fashion. It is essential reading for anyone wanting to improve their assertiveness, and for therapists treating assertiveness problems.”
—Steven Taylor, Ph.D., R.Psych., Associate Professor, University of British Columbia, and Associate Editor of Behavior Research and Therapy



“This workbook will be a welcome resource to individuals currently struggling with assertiveness difficulties. It will not only help people tackle assertiveness issues, but also target such important topics as need for control, conflict management, and even acceptance of compliments. In short, it holds the potential to effectively change your life.”
—Brian Coz, Ph.D., C.Psych., Psychologist and Associate Professor of Psychiatry, University of Manitoba, and author of more than 100 published research articles on anxiety disorders and depression

About the Author

Randy J Paterson, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the Coordinator of Changeways, a depression treatment program at Vancouver Hospital and Health Sciences Centre in Vancouver, British Columbia. He is adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Psychology and associate faculty in the Department of Psychiatry, Faculty of Medicine at the University of British Colombia. Dr. Paterson has taught over 1200 therapists in the course of more than 100 training seminars on topics such as assertiveness training, depression, and stress management.
NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE

New York Times best sellers
Browse the New York Times best sellers in popular categories like Fiction, Nonfiction, Picture Books and more. See more

Product Details

  • Paperback: 200 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (December 30, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1572242094
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572242098
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 7 x 9.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (104 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #9,742 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Top Customer Reviews

By N. Larrabee on March 13, 2005
Format: Paperback
Being a passive personality, I went looking for some kind of guidance after a recent confrontation. It goes through many basic terms and concepts of human relationships and behavior. The author wants us to understand assertiveness before trying to put new ways of thinking into practice. The important part of the author's lesson is reminding us that assertiveness is part of a person's behavior but is not the person. It builds up to the ten steps of preparing for a confrontation. The written exercises are useful, the diagrams and check boxes not so much. Some terms were basic but many times when things are not working right, we have to be reminded of the basics. Personally, I would not choose to use the assertiveness scorecards in my regular day-to-day routine. It goes over what a DESO script, Describe, Express, Script, Outcome; could mean to anybody's personal and work relationships. How one can change a few steps in giving criticism to create positive feedback. The Assertiveness workbook makes you take a breath, and think before speaking. Clear, easy-to-read, straight-to-the-point chapters are there to help when needed.
3 Comments 107 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
Over the past several months, I've read many books about entrepreneurship, building relationships with others, and climbing the career ladder. All of these techniques have one thing in common: they require you to stand up for yourself and be assertive. Could I have just read this book!?

I've learned that assertiveness is simply being yourself. It is contributing to those around you in a positive way. It is respecting people for who they are. It is respecting the differences in one another. It is becoming more aware of what is important to others. It is speaking with wisdom. We all want the approval of others, but we must understand not everyone will be receptive to what we say. However, we will receive the respect of others when we speak up regardless of whether or not they agree.

One great technique is to minimize your communications - focus on making your messages as slim as possible, only communicating the bare assertive essentials. With that, I close this review. This book is wonderful. I recommend it! Along with, Success Secrets of the Motivational Superstars there are many great tips out there to becoming more assertive.
Comment 37 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
By A Customer on February 16, 2001
Format: Paperback
This book was easy to read, easy to understand and very easy to apply immediately to life circumstances. I particularly found useful the chart of behaviors and the aspects of appearance very well written, vivid and clear. This book was full of accurate user friendly information that anyone would be able to apply in their lives whatever their circumstance or job.
Comment 126 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
By Mrs. M on February 17, 2007
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This book is by far the most helpful book I've ever read. It is very informative, but in plain words that almost anyone can understand. The exercises it suggests really do help. I'm only half-way through it, but I've already made significant changes in my behavior. It really helped me understand the different communication styles and how to tweak my style to make me more satisfied with my communication with others. It's so simple to do! I've always been lazy about change or given up too early, but this truly couldn't be any easier.
Comment 45 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
I had reached a point where I needed to learn how to assert myself and stop being miserable in certain situations. This book helped me take action and understand how to react when confronted. If you feel that you are in need of some "tools" this is a great book.
Comment 29 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
I tried everything to become assertive, but before I discovered this book, nothing taught me this ability, it will work for you too, if you commit to it, it's so much harder than it seems but that's just because you need it so bad!

You will be amazed how you you will become a different person when you intigrate this material, it works!
Comment 23 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This book is a great tool and really does help. You have to do the work as prescribed or you really will just waste your time. Realistically though simply reading a book couldn't possibly change a person without actually acting on the information. If you need help in this area get the book and use it, it is very helpful.
Comment 14 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
The "Assertiveness Workbook" is a comprehensive and well-written resource for anyone (that is, just about all of us ) who wants to communicate and interact with others in a mature, caring, and effective manner. While most of those who buy this book probably have problems with non-assertiveness, aggressive people who can admit that their extreme reactions to frustrations and disappointments are problematic will also find it to be helpful.

The workbook is written in a clear and user-friendly manner, offering sound insights and practical advice. As in any good workbook, experiential and written exercises are included to give the readers opportunities to practice their emerging assertiveness skills. The first part of the book lays out a conceptual framework and invites the reader to identify her own interactive style (unhelpful: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive; and helpful: assertive), and then explores what makes it hard for us to move from unhelpful responses to interpersonal challenges towards the more helpful assertiveness style.

The remainder (and majority) of the book deals with the "how to" aspect of becoming more assertive. Author Paterson offers practical, specific advice and several helpful examples. Topics include how to effectively: use non-verbal communication to project non-threatening confidence, share differing opinions, receive and offer both negative and positive feedback, and make requests in a respectful manner. He acknowledges, though, that even people who are skillful with assertiveness sometimes need to face interpersonal conflict, and he devotes a few chapters near the end of the book to this topic.
Read more ›
Comment 9 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse

Set up an Amazon Giveaway

The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships
Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers. Learn more about Amazon Giveaway
This item: The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships