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BALLS: It Takes Some to Get Some Kindle Edition
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About the Author
- Publication date : October 4, 2016
- File size : 1017 KB
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 264 pages
- ASIN : B01LXPMYYM
- Publisher : Greenleaf Book Group Press (October 4, 2016)
- Language: : English
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- Lending : Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #65,472 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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Chris was born an anatomical female, but that never felt right to him. His family just assumed that he was tomboyish or possibly a mannish lesbian. He came out to his family after college. They were supportive, but they certainly made some missteps along the way as they struggled to understand. The memoir focuses mostly on Chris' adulthood and his very difficult journey through hormone replacement and gender confirmation surgery. He did all of this while trying to keep his job in his father's advertising company and while trying to keep friends and date women. His initial impulse was to relocate and start fresh with people who only knew him as Chris. He took the more difficult path of allowing friends and family to accompany and support him during years of changes. He did all of this with grace and good humor.
One criticism of this book is that it presents an unrealistic picture of transgender acceptance. True, Chris comes from a wealthy family who were willing to help with expensive surgeries that are not covered by insurance. He also lived in a liberal community and worked in typically liberal creative field. He also had a predominately positive experience with friends and with his medical team. He acknowledges this and knows that others are not as fortunate. However, I think that he deserves a lot of credit for the level of acceptance that he received. He was honest and direct with people, asked for help, and was funny. In other words, he was himself and people accepted him.
The sections about the surgeries are extremely interesting and detailed. Frankly, I had not thought about the amount of time and work that goes into this. It is more than just hormones and reshaping flaps of skin. Chris wanted to go "all the way" with gender confirmation surgery. He had a mastectomy, hysterectomy, and surgeries to construct testicles and a functioning penis. Anyone who thinks that being transgendered is a fad or a choice should read the sections about surgery. No one would put themselves through something like that for fun or attention. You do that to save your life and to feel right in your body.
Sadly, Chris' experience of loving friends and family will not be the same as most. However, I think this book offers hope. It also provides a lot of information and some good tips on how to be respectful to transgendered people. Additionally, it puts a very human face on this nice family and their son. Unfortunately, the people who really need to read this book will never pick it up. Maybe word-of-mouth marketing will work here too.
With humor and honesty, Chris shares his personal and painful struggle with gender dypshoria and brings us along on his transition to physically becoming the person he always felt he was inside.
Chris’s story is relatable, heartwarming, inspirational and funny, with so many important messages everyone can benefit from, including the freedom that comes when we’re true to ourselves and with others, the recognition that our actions and understanding have the power to shape others’ reactions, the gift of unconditional love and support that friends and family can offer, and the magic that comes from understanding, acceptance and empathy.
I’m so grateful that Chris shared his story and that, through his own actions and those of caring friends and family, he had the love and support to make it through such a difficult time in his life. I think everyone should read this book and consider it a guide for getting yourself and others through even the most difficult times.
I can’t wait to share it with others… but first, I’m going to read it again!
It’s a unique story and the details are fascinating. It reminded me of the book by Janet Mock's Redefining Realness who transitioned to a woman. Emotionally there are a lot of similarities of finding our true selves and the difficult and unique paths each person takes to get there.
I liked the details you gave and the way you described each stage of the process, including the medical. As someone who was in medical school before dropping out to go into social work, I appreciated the details. The truth is, everyone wants to know the juicy details and the mystery of whether it will work in the end.
The book is a wonderful support for all people who must be true to themselves in spite of the obstacles.
Everyone can appreciate the immense courage it took to do what Chris did. Men and women will feel empowered by this ballsy memoir.
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The first being his early adoption of new (keep in mind the year was 1995), marketing strategies such as ‘evangelism marketing’ or ‘word-of-mouth’. When he wanted his colleagues to know about his transition, he successfully set out to turn each of them into brand evangelists. He sought out a group of coworkers whom he coached, educated and ensured were sufficiently knowledgeable about the sensitive subject of his transition, to start spreading the news on his behalf throughout the Arnold community.
Secondly, the importance and benefits of having a compassionate and supportive employer who genuinely cares about their staff, embraces diversity in all its wonderful forms and recognizes that these types of stories will often cement their position as an employer of choice. The culture at Arnold was so powerful that their employees went to extraordinary lengths to create a sense of belonging for those around them.
A worthy read that will open your eyes to both the challenges and opportunities that face people as they transition.