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Difficult to get past the author's angst and attitude, but good insight if you can bear it
on February 3, 2014
It took me a while to adjust my mental filters to actually hear what the author had written, but I think I get it. It took a lot of effort. This is an interesting perspective, but I think a valid one. The writing is a bit brash, but if you can get past the attiude, there is a lot of very good information. The view is very different from almost every other candy coated book I've yet read on BDSM. Things are presented as "this is how it is" and isn't all that "pretty". It is dark and written purely from a POWER point of view. I would never recommend this book for a beginner, but I would recommend it for anyone who has been in the BDSM realm (I expressly avoided saying "Lifestyle" here). This work comes under the "informed consent" type of information - what your mother didn't tell you about BDSM. It tends to be EXTREMEIST and pushes the boundries of aceptibility (IMHO), but those things happen in BDSM - which is WHY I consider this a good book. Alternate points of view are important to me and I can learn something from (nearly) anyone. If you buy this book, engage your brain! Filter and process according to what you know and understand. This is NOT middle of the road - there are always those who either lust for raw power or to bury their own identity in selfless service. This book assumes those extremes. I'd only recommend this book to someone who really is on a quest to "understand and accept", not for anyone who is just casually investigating or learning or brand-new.