- Hardcover: 320 pages
- Publisher: Sounds True (January 1, 2015)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1622032292
- ISBN-13: 978-1622032297
- Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 1 x 9.2 inches
- Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 42 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #508,866 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power Hardcover – January 1, 2015
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“To Be A Man: Every man should read it as autobiography, every woman should read it as revelation, and our culture should embrace it as a healing balm.”
—Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and coauthor (with Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD) of Making Marriage Simple
“In this essential book, Robert Augustus Masters challenges current ideas about what it means to be a man, and explores crucial gender issues that affect every man, boy, woman, and girl on our planet. By uncoupling anger from aggression, sexuality from rape and porn, and masculinity from brutality, Robert supports men and boys in reclaiming the sacredness, magnificence, and true power of healthy masculinity.”
—Karla McLaren, author of The Language of Emotions and The Art of Empathy
“A masterpiece of transformational wisdom.”
—Alan Clements, author of Instinct for Freedom and A Future to Believe In
“Masters’ insights populate every page of this compelling book, and offer creative ways of thinking about many of our era’s most complex and controversial issues, among them pornography; sexual violence; militarism and war; the effects of trauma on men’s psyches and identities; and much more.”
—Jackson Katz, PhD, author of The Macho Paradox and Leading Men, and creator of the award-winning films Tough Guise and Tough Guise 2
“A brilliant, compassionate, paradigm-exploding instruction manual for any man—or woman—on the planet. What a fearless and amazing book!”
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About the Author
Robert Augustus Masters
Robert Augustus Masters, PhD, is an integral psychotherapist, relationship expert, and spiritual teacher whose work blends the psychological and physical with the spiritual, emphasizing embodiment, emotional literacy, and the development of relational maturity. He is the author of fourteen books, including Transformation through Intimacy and Spiritual Bypassing.
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i am updating this review to include a bit more. i have done personal and couple's work with robert and am currently in his shadow work training. i get A LOT out of working with him and reading his books.
the info in this book on eroticizing our wounds (acting out our hurt through sexual channels) and pornography unplugged (facing the pain that drives us towards porn) is so illuminating! i feel ALL men could benefit from reading just those two chapters considering sex addiction and porn addiction are so prevalent and so easily normalized (men have a high sex drive- it's biological! porn is normal- everyone watches it!). there is much shame and deep pain and wounding underneath these seemingly normal, 'every guy does it' behaviors/attitudes- but you would never know about it if you only stayed on the surface and did not have the courage to dive deep and look at the unconscious conditioning that is running you and your seemingly conscious choices.
any man who is on a deep journey of self awareness and self mastery and who truly wants to see his stuff, take accountability for it and move through it should read this book and better yet do work with robert (he does personal work and men's groups). as a woman- if i hear that someone has read this book AND has actually done deep, committed work around the things it brings up it will speak volumes to me about that man's integrity and willingness/commitment to his own personal growth path (and no just reading the book or doing one shadow work session is not enough- this work requires a total commitment and every week if not everyday practice).
as i stated in this initial review i am updating- this is a great book for women (as i am one). i have learned a lot about my own internal masculine and what i need to anchor into more deeply within myself so that i can experience its reflection in my outer life in the form of men in my life and in regards to intimate relationship.
i recommend all of his books but if i had to say top 4- i would say it's this one, transformation through intimacy, spiritual bypassing and emotional intimacy. also his audio book on 'knowing your shadow'.
i feel that shadow work is so key right now as so much violence and darkness is playing out on the planet today. as jung said 'enlightenment is not about imagining figures of Light but of making the darkness conscious'. in spiritual communities only focusing on Love and Light- the missing piece of shadow work is actually the downfall and the tendency towards spiritual bypassing is actually keeping people stuck in deeply wounding patterns they act out of but cannot see because they are blinded by their own Light. 'the brighter the Light the darker the shadow'. true mastery is integration of both- and knowing our shadow (versus only living in our Light) is the true path to mastery in my experience. (and to be clear i am simply on this path and am not enlightened. i am merely committed to my own awakening and to the awakening of the world at large. blessed be!)
powerful read! i highly recommend!
My title of this review says it all. And I'm not speaking hyperbolically. This book has opened my eyes and heart to wisdom and power I've never before experienced. I have hope now that I have never before possessed in being able to live a rich and meaningful life. I wasn't hopeless before. But never saw the path forward with such honest clarity as I do now.
My father was recently diagnosed with a terminal disease. He only has a month or two to live. Business and personal finances are a constant stress and struggle. I've been married for 17 years (yesterday) and have a 15 year old daughter, 12 year old son, and a 9 year old son. And optimism I have in improving all those areas of my life and those relationships is significantly increased as a result of reading this book. But not in a pumped up, rah rah, I can do this sort of way. It's a very centered, grounded, honest, vulnerable, possibly slow but lasered in on the absolute core and best things sort of way. The antithesis of a shortcut. And yet still the quickest most efficient path to the true change and evolution I seek.