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Becoming a Father: How to Nurture and Enjoy Your Family (Growing Family) 2nd Edition

4.6 out of 5 stars 23 customer reviews
ISBN-13: 978-0912500966
ISBN-10: 0912500964
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Product Details

  • Series: Growing Family
  • Paperback: 242 pages
  • Publisher: La Leche League International; 2 edition (June 2, 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0912500964
  • ISBN-13: 978-0912500966
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #592,235 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Format: Paperback
This book provides a non-nonsense look at what a man can expect (and how he can contribute most effectively) during pregnancy and as a father. There is a particular focus on the first few months of fatherhood - which are frankly the months that worry me the most as my wife enters month nine!
Sears' presents a straightforward philosophy based on nurturing the child (often by taking care of the mother). He presents nurture as fundamental to (1) providing a structured, trusting environment so that the child may develop and learn, (2) building a solid foundation for a well-disciplined child, and (3) establishing a relationship that allows your child to assume values that the parents want rather than those from other role models.
As I reflect on the book, most of it seems to be common sense, but it certainly was not obvious before my reading. I would recommend this book to all men about to have a child.
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By A Customer on January 26, 2001
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I enjoyed reading the book. I have used many of the ideas from Dr. Sears book to raise my two children. I own five other fathering books but this is by far the best and most practical one.
Lets face it, there is little support or literature for fathering. I think society expects men to raise their children just like our dads did. Most of the available fathering literature is written by men with one or two children and psychology degrees. Dr. Sears has six kids and is a busy pediatrician.
Especially if you are a first time father, do your child a favor. Buy and read this book.
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By A Customer on November 11, 2000
Format: Paperback
Dr. Sears is the acknowledged leader in the attachment parenting movement, with many well-received books to his name. Like his other titles, _Becoming a Father_ emphasizes early bonding, positive discipline, and respect for the child's physical and emotional needs. To the extent that all fathers need to hear this message, this is an excellent book. So why the low rating? Because despite his child-positive message, Dr. Sears is caught in a time warp when it comes to models of masculinity. Underlying his arguments for an active role for fathers are assumptions that this reader found frustratingly rigid and occasionally downright offensive. An example:
"The growing child should see that important family matters require a mutual decision-making process that involves both mom and dad, but I believe that dad is primarily responsible for making decisions." (p. 194)
Even more troubling is the author's attitude toward homosexuality, which seems to be informed more by conservative religious values than by current medical knowledge:
"'I don't want my son to grow up to be a pansy,' exclaimed John, a new father. His sentiments are shared by most men." (p. 200)
For those readers who aren't already aware of the meaning--or should I say "demeaning"?--of this slur, Dr. Sears goes on to define a "pansy" as "an effeminate boy." Given the author's 1950s-style ideas of masculinity, I'd hate to think how he would judge a boy who, after watching his father wearing a younger sibling in a sling, asked for a doll to play with. He concludes:
"I am personally concerned that our society tends to approve of lifestyles [sic!] such as homosexuality. Society sees this as an 'acceptable alternative.
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It has been difficult to find a book for dads that is not filled w corny jokes and no brainier info. My husband and I both like this book a lot. Written by a Dr & a dad, Dr Sears is an expert and he is gifted in explanations & reasonings. Love Dr Sears & this book
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Both my husband and I read this book before our first child was born. We both found it to be very practical, hands-on, and informative. Many parenting books give the same information over and over and it tends to be "common knowledge" if you are halfway educated. This book provided new ideas for bonding and involving the father in the child's relationship. As a breastfeeding mother, I especially appreciated his detailed advice and guidance for the father on how to support a nursing mom and baby. I am a licensed parent educator and I will reference this book for infant parenting classes. In regards to the "A Customer" review that felt the book was sexist and unsupportive of homosexuality - I disgree. Perhaps the quotes are taken out of context, because I am very liberal and open-minded and I NEVER got that feeling after reading the book many times now.
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By A Customer on August 30, 2002
Format: Paperback
Yes indeed. Why? I do not know. But, my husband read this book cover to cover. It was the ONLY book he read to prepare for the birth of our daughter.
His issue, and mine, has a lot to do with Dr. Sears' consistently characterizing Dad as "helper", someone secondary in importance to Mom and incapable of being motherly.
His writing style is kind of folksy if you like that.
If you are really liberal and politically correct,you will not appreciate this book or this man for that reason and for the way
you may perceive his views on gender identity and development in children.
If words like conservative, traditional are anathema to you, leave the book on the shelf.
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