- Series: Growing Family
- Paperback: 242 pages
- Publisher: La Leche League International; 2 edition (June 2, 2003)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0912500964
- ISBN-13: 978-0912500966
- Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
- Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #592,235 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Becoming a Father: How to Nurture and Enjoy Your Family (Growing Family) 2nd Edition
Use the Amazon App to scan ISBNs and compare prices.
Frequently Bought Together
Customers Who Bought This Item Also Bought
Top Customer Reviews
Sears' presents a straightforward philosophy based on nurturing the child (often by taking care of the mother). He presents nurture as fundamental to (1) providing a structured, trusting environment so that the child may develop and learn, (2) building a solid foundation for a well-disciplined child, and (3) establishing a relationship that allows your child to assume values that the parents want rather than those from other role models.
As I reflect on the book, most of it seems to be common sense, but it certainly was not obvious before my reading. I would recommend this book to all men about to have a child.
Lets face it, there is little support or literature for fathering. I think society expects men to raise their children just like our dads did. Most of the available fathering literature is written by men with one or two children and psychology degrees. Dr. Sears has six kids and is a busy pediatrician.
Especially if you are a first time father, do your child a favor. Buy and read this book.
"The growing child should see that important family matters require a mutual decision-making process that involves both mom and dad, but I believe that dad is primarily responsible for making decisions." (p. 194)
Even more troubling is the author's attitude toward homosexuality, which seems to be informed more by conservative religious values than by current medical knowledge:
"'I don't want my son to grow up to be a pansy,' exclaimed John, a new father. His sentiments are shared by most men." (p. 200)
For those readers who aren't already aware of the meaning--or should I say "demeaning"?--of this slur, Dr. Sears goes on to define a "pansy" as "an effeminate boy." Given the author's 1950s-style ideas of masculinity, I'd hate to think how he would judge a boy who, after watching his father wearing a younger sibling in a sling, asked for a doll to play with. He concludes:
"I am personally concerned that our society tends to approve of lifestyles [sic!] such as homosexuality. Society sees this as an 'acceptable alternative.Read more ›
His issue, and mine, has a lot to do with Dr. Sears' consistently characterizing Dad as "helper", someone secondary in importance to Mom and incapable of being motherly.
His writing style is kind of folksy if you like that.
If you are really liberal and politically correct,you will not appreciate this book or this man for that reason and for the way
you may perceive his views on gender identity and development in children.
If words like conservative, traditional are anathema to you, leave the book on the shelf.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I think if you don't know ANYTHING about children this is an OK book but if you want to know more talk to your father.Published 7 days ago by Catherine Elizabeth Clay
I was reading a lot of Sears books during pregnancy and post-partum and my husband was relieved when I came across this. Read morePublished 6 months ago by TCD
Excellent read! Has some great information that I would not did not get from other books. I later found some of the same info in a book that I received from the hospital after the... Read morePublished 7 months ago by La-Shon Archibald
I got this as a gift for my son who is going to become a father for the first time at age 50 this fall. Read morePublished on July 29, 2014 by Judyb
excellent books for all new or current parents it helped me alot understanding what mamma's going thru and how to be a better man partner. Read morePublished on May 8, 2014 by kurt montgomery
As a new father I was looking for something that would give me somesort of heads up on what to expect as well as how I can be a good father and this book really helped. Read morePublished on February 17, 2014 by Lucas Schukei
This was a gift for our son's birthday who is soon to be a father. Dr Sears is a well known Christian pediatrician and father
of about 8 children. Read more
This book is excellent for the expectant father; Becoming a Father is a clear and concise book on fathering a child utilizing the attachment parenting method. Read morePublished on January 7, 2014 by Christina Rugh