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Before It's Too Late: Why Some Kids Get Into Trouble--and What Parents Can Do About It Paperback – November 20, 2001
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I have taught in McLaughlin Youth Center (MYC) for over 11 years. MYC is the state reform school for Alaska. Over these 11 years I have taught hundreds of youthful offenders. Dr. Samenow has not only described the problems these offenders have, he has identified how to help those who can be helped.
Many times I have asked my students, "Did any of you know that what you did to get incarcerated here was wrong?" In every instance 100% of them admit that they knew that their action was wrong. They admit that they made the choice to take a chance and commit a crime.
Through out my teaching career, which began in 1955, I have heard people say, "Oh, the poor children. If their parents had not neglected them, if they had had a good home, if only society gave them a chance, et cetera." This is utter nonsense and Dr. Samenow refutes this nonsense with facts and statistics. These facts reveal that the choices these criminals made were not the result of neglect or poor conditions. In nearly every case children made the choices. These children have a predisposition to antisocial behavior. America has excused their behavior and we can not survive if we do not stop excusing juvenile criminal behavior.
America must save itself from this growing number of criminals. We must recognize that the weak treatment programs of the past have not worked. These programs are not working now and that the children of today need to know that their antisocial behavior will result in the swift, sure and certain punishment their crimes deserve.
Dr. Samenow tells us how to do this. We must listen before it's too late.
Rev. Dr. Michael K. Mitchell Anchorage, Alaska
P.S. Like parents described in the book, I also have another child who is loving & rational, and unfortunatly has paid a high price for her brother's disruptive problems.
Take care, Debbie Anderson
Especially helpful to me were the descriptions of common symptoms of antisocial people (each symptom gets a whole chapter of treatment):
1) Life is a One-Way Street---My Way
2) Disregard of Injury to Others
3) Unrealistic Expectations and Pretentions
4) Taking the Easy Way
5) Lying as a Way of Life
6) "It's Not My Fault"--Refusing to be Held Accountable
7) An Island Unto Himself
Of course, if you know anybody who exhibits some of these traits, you better get a copy of this book. The last part of the book shows how to successfully deal with these difficult people.
I am a parent of 3 children - 2 are very normal, confident and well rounded, the other has been in therapy, psychiatry, psychiatric hospitals and on various cocktails of medication since he was 4 years old. Now we have reached teenage years and still have no answers or concrete diagnoses, but an increasingly problem whereby we live with locked cupboards all over over our house, dealings with police, school, firesetting problems.
After discussions with a psychologist and social worker about antisocial personality, this book was recommended to me and I recognized everything written as something we have dealt with since our son was a small child. The greatest relief given to me by this book was not only the acceptance that we did everything we could, everything advised by every doctor & therapst, but we finally understand more about how his mind works when he makes the wrong choices and treats his closest family as the enemy. This understanding alone, even before I reached the chapters on parenting advice, helped us immediately to dissolve the power struggles and changed the way we approach a conflict. This acceptance by us not only helps us but our other two children, and has possibly helped prevent further erosion of our family's esteem, hopes and sanity.
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This book provides more applications of Stanton Samenow's radically meaningful understanding of social deviancy, with the idea of utilizing its resulting modes of communication and... Read morePublished 28 days ago by wyliereader
I'll start with a summary. Samenow begins his book by arguing that his theories on troubled children run counter to current mainstream trends in psychology about the way we look at... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Alyssa
This is an excellent book, wish the persons in my life who needed to read it would have read it before it was too late. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Flynnbean
Dr Samenow has the ability to make sense out of what is for a lot of us the impossible to understand.Published 5 months ago by mychele76
This book was recommended by Dr. Laura Schlesinger on her Sirius talk show (who I think very highly of) and I'm reading it for educational purposes. Read morePublished 12 months ago by Rosemarie Pettit