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"Insightful and informative, honest and heartening, Being the Other One is an empowering guide that illuminates the lifelong challenges faced by the siblings of people with disabilities. Whether you're a parent, a professional, or, like Kate Strohm herself, a sibling, you reach for this book again and again, finding both support and solutions in its pages."—Rachel Simon, author of Riding the Bus with My Sister: A True Life Journey

"This book really made me think. Kate Strohm's wise commentary urges us all to be honest about the rough parts of living with disability in the family, and her practical strategies help us to make the most of what's good."—Judy Karasik, coauthor of The Ride Together: A Brother and Sister's Memoir of Autism in the Family

"A wonderfully readable and practical contribution to the growing list of books about and by siblings of people who have disabilities. Kate does a marvelous job of weaving her personal experiences with useful advice for parents, service providers, and siblings themselves."—Don Meyer, Director, Sibling Support Project of the Arc of the United States

About the Author

Kate Strohm is a counselor, health educator, and journalist. She is the director of Siblings Australia, a program that provides resources and support for siblings of children with special needs, as well as for their families and health care providers. She is a sibling herself to a sister with cerebral palsy.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Shambhala; 2nd ed. edition (February 8, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1590301501
  • ISBN-13: 978-1590301500
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #643,205 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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When I chose this book, I thought I would be adding to my teacher-knowledge of people with special needs and their families. I was stunned to find myself crying: this was me! I was reading about me and my family! The roots of my lifelong struggles and current stress were made plain. But who in MY family had special needs? I never thought of it that way. My sister has struggled with her weight and moods all her life, and so have we all. I am "the other one," and now I know why. I highly recommend this book, for speaking the "unspoken." Knowledge gives us the ability to understand, and to heal. At the end of each chapter are both a summary and strategies to deal with these issues. The author has given us an amazingly practical, working tool, in easy to read format. Whether you are a family member, teacher, or health professional, you'll be glad you read this book.
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I grew up with a disabled younger brother, and am only now, in my 40s, starting to realize what affect that had on me, and on my way of reacting to life. This book gives me permission to explore this, without feeling guilty. I thank the author for her compassion and frankness. The many examples and testimonies allow a glimpse of many kinds of different affects, depending on different family situations. I highly recommend this book. It helps me understand myself a little better.
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This was recommended by someone in a caregiver support group. I bought this for my oldest daughter who has had to grow up with two disabled siblings. She's 20 now and I wish I'd read it 10+ years ago. Both my husband and I read it and thought it was pretty good and helpful to understand how growing up "The Other One" makes you different. Of course, we were aware to some degree, but it always helps reading about others' experiences. Will be giving it to my daughter next week and I hope knowing that she's not alone in how she's felt will help her.
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I encourage siblings and parents to read this book if someone in their family has a disability. It hit so many issues dead on that I never realized anyone else experienced. It allows siblings to take an honest look at their experiences while growing up with someone who has a disability. It also gives great tips for how families can address these issues early on.
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This is a good book for the parents of the siblings and cousins of disabled children. So often we must focus on and care for our "special" child and it's easy to overlook the needs of our healthy children.
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I read the first edition of this book about a long time ago and it absolutely resonated with my experience of growing up with a brother 7 years older than me who has an intellectual disability complicated by now having high care needs. I experienced extreme anxiety and guilt which took me decades to work through. I felt that Kate was writing directly to me, the connection was that strong. I have the privilege of having met Kate several times now since then and now through my profession in the community sector supporting families of people with disability. If you are a Sibling, Parent of a child with special needs or a Service Provider working in the Disability, Mental Health, Alcohol or other drug sector, this book is a ''must read'' to get the perspective of family members who are usually overlooked when it comes to Government Policy, support and funding.
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