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Bend, Not Break: A Life in Two Worlds Hardcover – December 31, 2012
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—Ping Fu’s “Shanghai Papa”
Ping Fu knows what it’s like to be a child soldier, a factory worker, and a political prisoner. To be beaten and raped for the crime of being born into a well-educated family. To be deported with barely enough money for a plane ticket to a bewildering new land. To start all over, without family or friends, as a maid, waitress, and student.
Ping Fu also knows what it’s like to be a pioneering software programmer, an innovator, a CEO, and Inc. magazine’s Entrepreneur of the Year. To be a friend and mentor to some of the best-known names in technology. To build some of the coolest new products in the world. To give speeches that inspire huge crowds. To meet and advise the president of the United States.
It sounds too unbelievable for fiction, but this is the true story of a life in two worlds.
Born on the eve of China’s Cultural Revolution, Ping was separated from her family at the age of eight. She grew up fighting hunger and humiliation and shielding her younger sister from the teenagers in Mao’s Red Guard. At twenty-five, she found her way to the United States; her only resources were $80 in traveler’s checks and three phrases of English: thank you, hello, and help.
Yet Ping persevered, and the hard-won lessons of her childhood guided her to success in her new homeland. Aided by her well-honed survival instincts, a few good friends, and the kindness of strangers, she grew into someone she never thought she’d be—a strong, independent, entrepreneurial leader. A love of problem solving led her to computer science, and Ping became part of the team that created NCSA Mosaic, which became Netscape, the Web browser that forever changed how we access information. She then started a company, Geomagic, that has literally reshaped the world, from personalizing prosthetic limbs to repairing NASA spaceships.
Bend, Not Break depicts a journey from imprisonment to freedom, and from the dogmatic anticapitalism of Mao’s China to the high-stakes, take-no-prisoners world of technology start-ups in the United States. It is a tribute to one woman’s courage in the face of cruelty and a valuable lesson on the enduring power of resilience.
- Print length288 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherPortfolio
- Publication dateDecember 31, 2012
- Dimensions6.25 x 1 x 9.25 inches
- ISBN-109781591845522
- ISBN-13978-1591845522
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Do not read this book if you reject kindness, humility, and ingenuity. With staggering authenticity and zero cliché, Ping's story will shock you to your core. Suspend all assumptions. Take nothing for granted. Nothing. You will not be able to put this book down. When you're done, your notion of human capacity will be redefined. It's 'Rocky,' 'My Fair Lady,' 'The Sound of Music,' 'To Kill a Mockingbird,' and 'Gone With the Wind' -- all in one.
--Sally Rosenthal, executive producer of Peabody Award-winning documentary 'Between the Folds'
I could not put this book down. From surviving the insanity of China's Cultural Revolution to the cutthroat antics of hi-tech venture capitalism, from low-life outcast to billionaire dealer--it's amazing to believe this all happened in one person's life. The lessons Ping Fu has so artfully accumulated are inspiring, heartening, educating, and entertaining. I defy anyone to read this book and not come away with a greater commitment to follow through with their plans, and a desire to invent their own lives.
--Kevin Kelly, Senior Maverick, Wired, and author, 'What Technology Wants'
Intensely personal and moving, Bend, Not Break will change the way you think about what it takes to make it in America. Ping's journey to becoming a top tech guru had many roadblocks but her relentless optimism and belief in the good of others kept her going. Hers is a true success story.
--James Goodnight, founder & CEO of SAS, ranked #1 in 2011 and top ten of 100 best companies to work for nine times by Fortune magazine
There are few people in our world who embody optimism like Ping Fu. Anyone who struggles with adversity or believes that their success and happiness are conditional on their circumstances needs to hear Ping's story. She shows us how the human spirit can endure amazing hardship to find happiness, joy and astounding success. More importantly, Ping shows us how being devoted to others is what carries us forwards. Ping is such an inspiration to me and everyone she meets.
--Simon Sinek, author of 'Start With Why'
Resilience is the most essential element of life and business today, and there is no more shining role model for resilience (and grace and humility and a whole bunch of other qualities) than Ping Fu. The story of how she fled China under precarious circumstances, made a new life in the United States, and built a vibrant company should be required reading.
--Chip Conley, founder of 'Joie de Vivre Hospitality' and author of 'Peak and Emotional Equations'
Ping Fu's life story is the stuff of heroic novels. Not only has she triumphed over adversity most of us can scarcely imagine, but she has managed to draw out of her experience a wealth of practical business lessons. Those lessons, which she presents in Bend, Not Break, have allowed her to emerge as a leading entrepreneur in a technology that is transforming the world of manufacturing, with far-reaching implications for global competition in the 21st century.
--Bo Burlingham, Editor-at-Large of Inc. magazine and author of 'Small Giants: Companies That Choose To Be Great Instead of Big'
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MeiMei Fox is an author and book editor who also blogs regularly for the Huffington Post.
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- Publisher : Portfolio; First Edition (December 31, 2012)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 288 pages
- ISBN-10 : 9781591845522
- ISBN-13 : 978-1591845522
- Item Weight : 1.15 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.25 x 1 x 9.25 inches
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MeiMei Fox is a New York Times bestselling author, having coauthored, edited and ghostwritten over a dozen non-fiction health, wellness, psychology and self-help books, including "Bend Not Break" with Ping Fu and "Fortytude" with Sarah Brokaw. Recently, she completed work on "The Five Invitations" with Frank Ostaseski.
Since 2016, Fox has contributed five articles per month to FORBES on aligning your career with your life purpose. She frequently profiles social and environmental entrepreneurs and change makers who can serve as role models to us all. Fox has had numerous articles published in Yoga Journal, Self Magazine, Stanford Magazine, Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, and other publications. Two of her poems were selected for the anthologies "Multiples Illuminated" and "Multiples Illuminated: Toddler to Tween Years."
Please visit her website for more information, testimonials, and a complete bibliography: www.meimeifox.com
Fox graduated Phi Beta Kappa with Honors and Distinction from Stanford University, where she earned a BA and MS in Psychology. She spent two years as a management consultant at McKinsey & Co in the San Francisco office before choosing to pursue her passion for writing, which she has been doing ever since. She feels blessed to have been able to travel the world while doing what she loves. In 2009, she joined Alexandra Cousteau, granddaughter of Jacque Cousteau, for Expedition Blue Planet, writing blogs and film scripts as they journeyed to Cape Town, the Okavango Delta, India, Israel and Jordan.
In addition to writing, Fox works as as life coach, helping clients to achieve their loftiest goals. She earned an MA in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute, including working for a year as a psychotherapist with middle school students. An avid yogi and meditator, she has earned a yoga teaching certificate from Ana Forrest and completed three 10-day silent Vipassana meditation retreats.
At present, Fox lives in Honolulu, Hawaii with her beloved husband, filmmaker/author Kiran Ramchandran, and their twin boys. She serves on the Board of the HOPE Foundation USA, an international NGO which offers support, healthcare, education, job skills training and more to the street and slum-affiliated communities of Kolkata, India. Her mantra is: "Fear less, Love MORE!"

Honored in 2005 by Inc. Magazine as "The Entrepreneur of the Year", Ping Fu describes herself as an artist and a scientist whose chosen expression is business. In 1997, Ping co-founded Geomagic, a software company which pioneers 3D technologies that fundamentally change the way products are designed and manufactured around the world. Used for repairing vintage cars at Jay Leno's garage to digitally recreating the Statue of Liberty, Geomagic aims to enable design and production of one-of-the-kind products and services at a cost less than mass production.
Before co-founding Geomagic, Ping Fu was Program Manager of Visualization at the National Center for Supercomputing Applications, where she was a manager in the team developed and launched the NCSA Mosaic software project that led to Netscape and Internet Explorer.
Ping has been serving on the NACIE (National Advisory Council on Innovation and Entrepreneurship). She was invited as a guest of the First Lady Michelle Obama at her box for the President's first State of Union Address. Ping was recognized in 2012 by the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services as an Outstanding American By Choice.
Coming to the US from China, Ping's journey to entrepreneurship is a remarkable American dream by itself. Her childhood dream was to be an astronaut. Today her company's software is used to ensure safe return of every NASA space shuttle. "There is a deep current of humanity in the way we approach innovation and business" she says. Ping has one daughter and they live in Los Angeles.
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This happened the same week that American media was ablaze with documentation from Mandiant that removed any doubt, once and for all, that there is in play aggressive and inappropriate behavior in cyber space by elements in China. To any thinking person, it is obvious that the hundreds of "one-star" reviewers are disingenuous and phonies, people working together on a common smear agenda. Does any thinking person truly believe that these "one-star reviewers" actually shelled out the money to buy this book? My review says "Amazon Verified Purchase". None of theirs do. Think about it.
So I bought the book and read it cover to cover. Please do the same. It is destined to become an American classic. It is a heart wrenching story of a complex journey, well written, brutally honest, and profound in its message. It is a story of courage and hope, but especially to me (a non-Asian) it is a joyous confirmation that people like Ping Fu are pure Americans, more patriotic and loyal to this country than many multi-generational Americans. She shows why we Americans (and Canadians) should embrace our special immigrants, as the fellow countrymen that they are. They remind us of what a great country we have, and why.
And for all you Angry Chinese that will read this and add your robot- like criticisms, hear me loud and clear. Ping Fu loves her China homeland too. That comes out clearly in her book. And because of this, you are right to fear her. Because through her writings, she is showing that enlightened Chinese, Chinese Americans, Chinese Canadians and others are united by their hatred of the repressive forces that you are showing here on Amazon, naked for the world to see. And we are listening to those Chinese. And we welcome them as our brothers and sisters.
So please buy this book. Read it. You'll be glad you did. If you are anything like me, you will identify with it. Then read the vicious smears here at Amazon, and you will realize that this is a living book, where the forces of evil are not defeated in chapter seven or twenty, but have followed you to your home computer, spewing out their venom.
My prediction: years from now, this entire "Amazon" experience will be pointed to as a shared experience that helped a sleepy world to fully understand the true nature of the repressive forces alive and well in parts of modern China. I hope that some bright author picks up on this idea and runs with it.
PS: Within 90 minutes of posting this, I received eight rather energetic, similar and very negative comments from non-native English speakers. I checked all of their profiles, and they are obviously fake - no one ever bought this book or anything else - because where they live Amazon doesn't deliver. All were written between 1:30am and 3:00 am China time, which tells me that they are salaried night employees taking orders from a civilian or military supervisor. They're as funny as they are annoying. The best comment of all was from the fellow that claims he borrowed his book from the university library a while ago, but can quote any page from the book to prove that he really read it (Huh? You hated the borrowed book, but still have it?).
1. Being ripped from the arms of her loving family at age 8 and forced to live with her 4-year old sister in a single dorm room for ten years of China's cultural revolution, during which she suffered hideous abuse at the hands of the Red Guard and her dorm mates
2. Being officially termed a "nonperson" for her college thesis on sex-selective abortion and female infanticide in China's countryside, which drew early international attention to this crisis, and resulted in her deportation to the US with no money, no connections, and no English proficiency
3. Finding her way - as a 22-year old, on her own - in the United States, from ESL student and waitress, to undergraduate and computer programmer, to computer science graduate student, to successful researcher at the National Center for Supercomputing Applications
4. Leaving the ivory tower to start (with her husband) the GeoMagic business creating, marketing, and selling 3D imaging and modeling software, managing its growth through the dot-com boom and bust and the growth of her own family
5. Returning to the CEO role of her company when it was on the brink of bankruptcy, and managing it through its own liquidity crisis and the ensuing financial crisis of 2008 to new heights of success, ultimately bringing her to the attention of the international press, and a position on President Obama's entrepreneurship council
Whew! More than a week after I finished reading the book, recounting this barest-possible outline of Ping's life story still takes my breath away. I cannot recommend this memoir strongly enough as an inspiring story of overcoming childhood trauma, embracing a new identity in a foreign land, and grappling simultaneously with extraordinary adversity and the everyday challenges of business, life, love, and family.
As Ping says, even when we feel we have been broken we have the power to put ourselves back together. When we do, we find that we are no longer the same - we have cracks and scars, and are maybe a bit rough around the edges. However, the magic of this process is that the imperfections in our new selves are not our weakness - they are our strength.
-Derek
As a side note - There has been a coordinated campaign to give this book 1-star reviews by people who think Ping's story reflects poorly on China. Personally, I think Ping's story presents a very positive, albeit unromanticized, view of that country (as well as the United States!) - with heroes outnumbering villains, and individuals often responding valiantly in the face of very adverse conditions. In any case, most of these reviews are by people who have not read the book, and have zero evidence for their assertions that Ping's story of her own life departs in any significant way from the truth.
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This book has given me more confidence in my own attitude and leadership style. I embrace and admit to weakness rather than hiding it. I take a pragmatic approach to everything. And I always look for cooperation.
Some quotes from the book and comments:
1. People succeed through "a combination of effort, intelligence and luck".
2. She quoted Viktor Frankl's 'Main in search of meaning': "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." I cherish Frankl. He has survived a german concentration camp, losing his wife there. His biography and outlook on life closely resemble that of Ping Fu.
3. "Later in life, I realized that many students learn the theory behind engineering and mathematical principles without ever applying their education through hands-on experience."
4. The book is Ping Fu's story, told by Ping Fu, as she remembers it. The book is not, nor does it aspire to be, a factual retelling of the events of the time. She writes "the first step in luring anyone into your worldview was creating an engaging narrative".
5. She incorporates emotion and feelings into her leadership style. That is an attitude that fits my personality well.
6. "Think about moving forward to make personal or social progress, rather than moving higher to gain a superior position".
7. A major theme in her life seems to be change. She has often had to deal with tremendous change, either by moving or switching jobs on purpose, or caused by an outside force. I think her ability to manage change, to cope with it, to accept it, to not fear it, plays a role in her success.
8. Nobody does it alone! And nothing gets handed to you! Both are true in her case.
Everyone should write a memoir. Everyone should tell his or her story, even if it is only for a few people.
In Inder Hundal.







