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Between Fathers and Daughters: Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship Paperback – September 1, 2008
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"The only word that consistently went through my mind as I was reading was 'remarkable!' The book is amazing -- thoughtfully weaving research findings, common sense advice, principles of psychotherapy and personal stories into a compelling work that has immense promise to alleviate the weight and pain of daughters being estranged from their fathers. Presuming to speak on behalf of the fathers to whom you will restore the great gift of their daughters, thank you!" --Dr. Sanford Braver, Arizona State University, author of Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths, and advisor to President Bill Clinton's Father Initiative
"Nielsen's book breaks new ground by including men as significant parents. Helpful for more than their financial contribution to their children, fathers must not only be permitted but encouraged toward a role beyond the stranger who signs the checks. So I say, 'read this book!'" --Karen DeCrow, attorney, former president of the National Organization of Women
"To say we love without knowing what we are loving is a wasted life. To discover our dad's or our daughter's love is to both discover them and ourselves. Nielsen's book guides us to both by data that makes us question what we know; by insights that help us discover what we don't know; and questionnaires that help us stumble into ourselves. Every dad and daughter must read it." --Warren Farrell, author of Father & Child Reunion and Why Men Are the Way They Are
"Dr. Nielsen brilliantly brings home the facts about what really happens in families of divorce and offers practical solutions. It masterfully separates fact from fiction and exposes the secret and hidden realities for many moms, dads, and daughters involved in divorce. Understanding, compassion, and healing are inevitable for readers. Research and real life stories are combined with interesting and thought-provoking quizzes and self tests. Dr. Nielsen masterfully uses this combination to unlock the secret and well-hidden realities of what really happens in divorce. Her practical insights and recommendations will bring understanding and healing for all who dare to look." --Maureen Geddes and Bob McGuire, attorneys, co-presidents of Canadian Equal Parenting Council
"A tour de force in the under-explored area of father-daughter relationships, Dr. Nielsen's 25 years of research provide a masterful handbook written in a disarmingly casual conversational style. With 200 heavy-duty citations to also entice the academic community, a lovely blend of anecdotal stories, crisp statistical summaries, and handy self-test quizzes, the author clearly understands communication. The chapter on divorced father-daughter relationships is superb and worth the price of the book alone. This one is a keeper--both as a dad's how-to manual on daughters, and a daughter's what-makes-Dad-tick reference guide." --Canadian Equal Parenting Council
"This is a hugely important book about a hugely important topic: healing the relationship between fathers and daughters. Professor Nielsen writes with more wisdom, experience, and care about this than anyone else out there. If you are a father or a daughter, or someone who cares about a daughter and father, get this book!" --Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., senior fellow, Council on Contemporary Families and author of When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Children Don't Get Along
"Dr. Linda Nielsen is at the vanguard of educators and authors who know that the relationship between daughters and fathers is fundamental and critical to the development of whole, healthy women. Her book offers insights and practical advice for daughters and fathers. Nielsen's work deserves our unending gratitude." --Jonetta Rose Barras, columnist, political analyst, and author of Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl: The Impact of Fatherlessness on Black Women
"Girls with loving, involved fathers flourish and become strong, secure women. Based on years of experience and research, Dr. Linda Nielsen tells fathers and daughters, in any family situation, how to nurture this core relationship." --Elizabeth Marquadt, Institute of American Values, author of Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce
"Linda Nielsen's Between Fathers and Daughters is an insightful, powerful work which gets beyond the stereotypes to provide a real-world examination of a tremendously underrated relationship--the loving, special bonds fathers share with their daughters." --Glenn Sacks, men's columnist and radio host of His Side
"Nielsen identifies the fears, hurts, and anger that separate fathers and daughters and--more important--she gives powerful tools to move beyond the past. Drawing on her extensive knowledge and expertise, Nielsen shows you how to reconnect, repair, and recapture a loving relationship. Stop feel sorry for yourself, stop feeling angry, get moving before it is too late with Nielsen's expert advice." --Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D., author of Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex
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The most important facet of building this new relationship seems to be overcoming the stereotypes and myths that have been perpetuated by the media. Again, we turn to the footnotes, a compilation of studies and numbers that swiftly brush aside the false notions that get us to not get along with Dad. There are also bullet points and insets that work to better illustrate the reality of these father/daughter relationships.
Dr. Nielsen places a great share of responsibility on the shoulders of the daughter. This stands to reason, considering it is most likely the daughter reading this book. I know that I'm reading it because Dad asked me if I would so I could let him know what I thought of it. I do not know if he has read the book himself, but we'll overlook the irony of reading a self-help book for someone else at the moment. The point here is, it is more likely the daughter who will be picking up this text and doing the exercises. It is the daughter who will be trying to repair the relationship or trying to repair something in herself or her relationship with other men or whatever. This is, of course, my opinion, based on the web-sense ads that amazon.Read more ›
I am a dad so I have to write about this book from my perspective in that role. One day my daughter was following me everywhere I went, smiling as she trotted along, and filled with joy. Then suddenly I had an adult daughter who seemed highly skeptical about my motives, preferred not to spend much time with me, and didn't find much to please her. How did that happen? I wasn't sure, but I certainly wanted it to change.
I found Dr. Nielsen's book to be very valuable for helping me understand where I was going wrong. I must have seemed as weird to my daughter as my parents did to me.
Trying the advice, I found that the rift rapidly began to close, and we started to enjoy one another's company again. I'm sold.
Dr. Nielsen draws on her experience in teaching a course on this subject. As a result, she has a number of quizzes where you can check out your attitudes and behavior. I found those to be very revealing.
The book is designed to be answered by fathers and daughters together. I didn't try that, but if your daughter is willing . . . go for it. I think it would work well.
The book also made me more sensitive to the ways that others condition my daughter's relationship with me through their beliefs and actions. I didn't try to change anything in that regard, but being more aware of the issue has helped me to choose better things to say and do.
This book is long overdue. There is a virtual library of material out there addressing the problems of mothers and daughters, but the relationship between fathers and daughters is relatively unexplored territory. And it's important that it be explored, because America is in the throes of a "father crisis." The presence of fathers in homes and the role of fathers in raising children is diminishing even as we come to realize the increasingly-obvious fact that children need both parents. Children who have access to their fathers do better in school, and better in life generally, than those who do not.
Dr. Nielsen explores in detail and with authority every facet of the father-daughter relationship. The book addresses topics such as how daughters can get to know their fathers better; how divorced fathers can maintain strong relationships with their daughters, and how fathers and daughters can help each other get through the experience of the mother's death. It has advice on how fathers and daughters can discuss money. A long list of other vital father-and-daughter issues is addressed as well, all treated with a great depth of human understanding and professional expertise. Dr. Nielsen gives good advice.
Whether you're a dad looking to strengthen his relationship with a daughter, or a daughter who may have had a difficult relationship with her father and seeks to improve it, this book will prove invaluable to you. I highly recommend it.
American Coalition for Fathers and Children
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I don't see a lot of information published on this very important topic. If this is the only one, it is excellent and might encompass all thought on the matter.Published 2 months ago by Patrick Richardson
The book doesnt have the magical cure for a difficult relationship, but is helpstounderstand and know you are not alone.Published on May 8, 2014 by HiMe
SAD TO SAY: It didn't work. Father and daughter are both too stubborn! It breaks my heart, married to one, mother to the other, I'm in the middle.Published on December 11, 2013 by James M.
I'm the new wife, and my husband cannot seem to reach the nice side of his daughter; it has to be there somewhere, but I don't know if she'll ever show it to him. Read morePublished on December 13, 2012 by mn
Nielsen's book discussed topics that went past forgiveness to relationship building. I was looking for a book that would help, in the area of relationship building and this one... Read morePublished on January 23, 2012 by K. Bee
BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS: ENRICHING AND REBUILDING YOUR ADULT RELATIONSHIP provides an entertaining book for fathers and daughters who want more from their relationship. Read morePublished on December 12, 2008 by Midwest Book Review