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Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce Paperback – September 26, 2006
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I was surprised that a work of this nature was funded and promoted in the first place. Although ethical therapists have known of the psychological damage of divorce for years, who wanted to "make half of America feel guilty?" [particularly when many of those "guilty" are therapists themselves.] Apparently, the psychological abuse of divorced children just could not be ignored any longer. "Between Two Worlds" draws its intellectual meat from a study funded by the Lilly Foundation in 2001 and conducted by the Institute for American Values, for which the author serves as an affiliate scholar. Approximately 1500 adults participated in the written study, with the author interviewing about 70 participants for the narrative of the work. The statistical results of the study are presented in detail at the book's conclusion. The subjects were selected from a carefully defined cohort: at some point in their childhood the subjects' parents had divorced, and in their own subsequent adult lives the subjects had attained some measure of success, such as graduating from college or distinguishing themselves in business or the arts.Read more ›
If you are a child of divorce, take a deep breath and prepare for some pain, but do read Between Two Worlds; you will find yourself writ large in this book of surpassing authority. This is no memoir - it is based on sound research, and draws from many sources to back up all general statements - but Ms. Marquardt uses the clever technique of writing in the first person plural, which gives the book an immediacy and depth no mere survey conclusions could approach.
I am a child of divorce, age 43 and happily married with three children. Until I read Between Two Worlds, not one single person in my entire experience (except other shell-shocked children of divorce) could believe or imagine what I went through, and so they didn't. And the children of divorce almost never talk about it because it is just too painful. It has taken me all the energy I have to create a positive life for myself and my children. I simply do not have the energy to re-examine the past. It's a good thing that Ms. Marquardt did, because it's about time people started to take a close look at how children feel about divorce. Maybe Between Two Worlds will be the turning point for our sociologists, psychologists, school counselors, etc.Read more ›
My parents divorced when I was 4 and my brother was 2. My father remarried but my mother never did. They both still live in the same town, as do I, yet I have been estranged from them for 2 years now with very little communication. I guess I want to reconcile with them, which may be why I still live in the same town, I am not really sure. Regardless we have had group therapy sessions from time to time to try to work this out but they never really go anywhere except circular frustration. I have tried to communicate with them on numerous occasions in both these sessions, informally, and in writing but with little success. I always felt like they never really understood. I kept telling them that I felt like I was stuck in the middle between them: taking care of my mother as a husband, getting frustrated with her for being helpless, feeling shamed for thinking her helpless, getting pissed at my dad for putting me in that position, thinking my mom was getting back at my dad through me by making me mad at him, then feeling guilty about thinking this about my mom, blowing them both off and acting out, and then back to taking care of mother and her feelings; around it went and still goes. This catch 22 is what I have tried to explain to them but then self-doubt comes and I feel I am overreacting. I tell myself that because the divorce was so long ago, and was what might be considered a "good" divorce, that I should be "over" it.
This has been lonely for me and I have recently realized this is not healthy. Yet I didn't know how to get on with my life without this confusion; being trapped in between.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Wonderful; every child/adult child of divorce should read this book!Published 2 months ago by bizziestbeaver
This book is outdated. It assumes divorce is like a new phenomenon. There's nothing in this book you can't find in a handful of YouTube videos.Published 6 months ago by Gnome3.14
Great read if you are considering divorce and have children. AMAZING perspective.Published 8 months ago by Amazon Customer
This book struck a chord with me and I am sure many others. Full of insight. Was hoping for a bit more on how to process divorce and found Long Way Home a better title in that... Read morePublished 8 months ago by Amazon Customer
Great insight into the struggles of children of divorce who are, often times, caught between two very conflicting worlds. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Kenyon Delk
I really enjoyed this book and it helped me learn about how my children are affected by living in "both worlds". Read morePublished on August 20, 2014 by Suzy Wilber
Separate edition ordered for couple going through divorce.Published on August 18, 2014 by Judith P. Burgess
This book is excellent, and kudos to Elizabeth Marquardt for presenting divorce from a child's perspective. Read morePublished on August 14, 2014 by DALawson
Hard to read, but very honest assessment. I agree with the author's findings. She does not point fingers, just tells us the hard cold facts. A must read for married couples. Read morePublished on March 28, 2014 by cbrookewilliams