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Beyond the Picket Fence: Life Beyond the Middle-Class Bubble Paperback – April 28, 2018
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- Publisher : CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform; 1st edition (April 28, 2018)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 360 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1987700880
- ISBN-13 : 978-1987700886
- Item Weight : 1.06 pounds
- Dimensions : 6 x 0.82 x 9 inches
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Basically, Honor Cultures are premised on the idea that your dignity, honor, respect, can be taken away from you by the actions of another. Therefore, if you insult someone from an Honor culture it is perfectly acceptable for them to hurt you, or even kill you to earn that honor back. It is quite the opposite in Dignity Cultures, where your honor, respect, dignity, are lost by your own actions, not the actions of another. Assaulting someone because they said something about your mother is a crime and punishable by jail time. Not so in Honor Cultures.
I want to point out something else that wasn't addressed directly in this book. Marc mentions in the Introduction about in the past people tore down fences and the problems we face today are a result of that. Many people in Honor Cultures feel that they were crapped on for centuries by people from Dignity Cultures. This "perceived" historical grievance is very powerful and has lead to intense hatred towards White people. Middle class and Upper Class White people need to learn this and remember this when dealing with people from Honor Cultures.
The only part of the book I disagreed with was Eric Plume's Live Free and Be Safe essay where he states on page 147: "middle class Americans lead lives governed by law and order. For one of us to end up in a situation where bloodshed will settle matters is so unlikely that preparing for it is a misapplication of effort."
Violence can happen anywhere and anyplace. Take road rage for example. You could be a nice middle class person commuting to work and some nutcase decides to target you and ram your car. The nutcase gets out and smashes your window. Is the training that you will use to defend yourself a misapplication of effort? There is no peaceful solution out of a situation like this. If you don't plan for contingencies you will not be able to save yourself in an emergency like this.
All and all a very good book and I highly recommend.
I've been following Marc MacYoung now for just about a decade or so. He has shared insights over years regarding de-escalation, common sense and how not to attract trouble; he has a knack of taking the most complicated smoke-And-Mirrors earnest beliefs that various FlavorOfTheMonth political parties try to beat you over the head with, and simplifying it down so you respond, "Dang! So *that's* what they're trying to sell???"
In this book, Beyond the Picket Fence, Marc's colleagues also share their best advice and wisdom... and the knowledge gained here resulted in the admittedly brief title of this review:
Gold. Simply gold.
Topics range from honor cultures to creeper boundaries to recognizing when to GTFO *now* to the Jersey Mob to the Circus Feudalism to de-escalation to being a Badger among Kittens and beyond (and not to fear - if you cannot imagine that *beyond*, open the book to page 1 and I guarantee you... you'll find yourself compelled to read more and more and more and more and more).
Not to mention more.
This is the kind of book you want to send to your kids (especially those kids who will be traveling or leaving their home town and the like, or kids who believe actions should have no consequences, based upon *who* is doing them).
Even for a knowledgeable person you will find some gems in this book.
This book provides the tools to keep you safer.