- File Size: 411 KB
- Print Length: 46 pages
- Publisher: Group Publishing (October 19, 2012)
- Publication Date: October 19, 2012
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
- Language: English
- ASIN: B009SPEH3E
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- Word Wise: Enabled
- Lending: Not Enabled
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#1,641,650 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
- #1284 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Religion & Spirituality > Christian Books & Bibles > Ministry & Evangelism > Youth Ministry
- #1804 in Books > Christian Books & Bibles > Ministry & Evangelism > Youth Ministry
- #5953 in Kindle Store > Kindle Short Reads > 90 minutes (44-64 pages) > Religion & Spirituality
Beyond Small Talk: Connecting With Teenagers Through Conversations That Matter Kindle Edition
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This book is good for someone who has no experience, and no idea how to communicate with teenagers. If you walk into a room filled with young people and your tongue sticks to the roof of your mouth, DON'T GET OUT OF YOUTH MINISTRY. Try this book first. Rachel has a lot of great starting points that will help you connect and engage with students.
I gave it three stars for three main reasons.
1. I am not in the above category, and neither are my volunteers. The book was really too shallow for anyone who's been involved at youth ministry for even a couple months.
2. Unfortunately there was some bad advice given on how to listen. While the whole premise of listening is rightly emphasized, the author spoke of the need to "summarize". "The technique of summirizing will help you better understand your conversation partner. It will also help you interpret more correctly." Unfortunately, I must strongly disagree. Summarizing IS interpreting, and could backfire terribly if a student is summarized to incorrectly. It could show that you weren't listening at all. The author suggests an example of: "So what you are saying is that you are mad at your sister for moving out because now you don't have anyone to help you when you're fighting with your mom." If you tell a student what they are saying--and you're wrong--you're at a dead end. It also could be infuriating to just be parroted back at. Instead, try the tentative-emotion-idea alternative: It sounds like (tentative) you're pretty upset at your sister (emotion) because she's left you fighting with you mom alone (idea). This allows students to agree and helps with self-awareness OR it allows them to disagree without you telling them what they said (which I find insensitive when it happens to me).
3. Some of the author's points about God are shaky. For example...
"the news of a God who loved them so much that he gave everything he had to prove it"
Compelling, but not accurate.
"[I]t is important... that we focus on the relationship with God, not the rules. This means we talk about our relationship in terms of emotions, faith, love, and trust, adn we ask students about how they view God"
You'd have to know me to understand how anti-legalism I am. But if 'faith without works is dead' works can be an great place to start. How much do we want to emphasize emotions as our connecting point with God in a world where emotions are exalted, and an authentic Christian walk can feel like a desert?
"God may yell on occasion, but God whispers most of the time. With all the noise around us, it's hard to hear and recognize God's voice." The author then goes on to back up this statement by quoting "an old Christian teen song", Lord, My Desire Is to Be Like You. I've heard this concept increase at an alarming rate, and I find ZERO biblical backing for it. (And no, God talking to Moses in a still small voice does not back this concept up).
Aside from my three gripes, the author lays out a very organized and diverse set of theory and skills that could highly benefit a beginning youth worker. I recommend it for use with volunteers who feel they have a hard time connecting with students. If this is not you, I'd recommend getting different material.
- J. Hunter
Formally trained youth worker, working with students going on 8 years