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Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close Paperback – July 6, 2021

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A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.

Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship—its joys and its pitfalls.

Aminatou and Ann define Big Friendship as a strong, significant bond that transcends life phases, geographical locations, and emotional shifts. And they should know: the two have had moments of charmed bliss and deep frustration, of profound connection and gut-wrenching alienation. They have weathered life-threatening health scares, getting fired from their dream jobs, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a car in a parking lot in Rancho Cucamonga. Through interviews with friends and experts, they have come to understand that their struggles are not unique. And that the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the decision to invest in one another again and again.

An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.

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“[A] thoughtful and highly readable story... Friendship is a choice. With this book, Sow and Friedman remind us that laziness in tending to friendships is dangerous, and that regardless of the circumstance, whether geography or pandemic, friendships must be nourished, or they will wither."
— New York Times Book Review

“Deeply compelling… This is the kind of book that makes you want to reach out to your best, biggest friends to say thank you, thank you, thank you for walking in this world with me. As with your big friendships, this unforgettable book is one you will want to keep close.”
— Roxane Gay, New York Times bestselling author of Bad Feminist and Hunger

“Here, friendship gets the emotional and intellectual respect it deserves; and like any truly great love story, Ann’s and Aminatou’s is a page turner. I love this book. “
—Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of Good and Mad

"A wonderful and intimate portrayal. A story is as universal as it is revolutionary."
— Hillary Rodham Clinton

“In this openhearted book, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman show us how a friendship can be as rewarding and enduring as a marriage, and they urge us to value it accordingly—as they clearly do. An inspiration."
—Ariel Levy, New York Times bestselling author of The Rules Do Not Apply

"A hilarious coming-of-age story, a heartfelt manifesto, and an ode to the magic of friendship."
— Cecile Richards, New York Times bestselling author of Make Trouble

“So smart, so funny, so honest—it will change the way you think about friendship."
—Jade Chang, author of The Wangs Vs. The World

"Long before all friendships became socially distanced, Aminatou and Ann were showing us how to do it — with radical honesty, vulnerability, and wit."
—Irin Carmon, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Notorious RBG: The Life and Times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg

“A gift to any reader who wants to keep and deepen their friendships. Why should romantic love get to take up all the space on the shelf?"
—Saeed Jones, author of How We Fight For Our Lives and Isaac Fitzgerald, author of How to Be a Pirate

“The compassion and open- hearted learning on display here will stay with you for a long time, and remind you of just how transformative close friendships can be."
—Heather Havrilesky, author of the Ask Polly advice column and How to Be a Person in the World

"Joyous, vulnerable, honest, and moving."
—J. Ryan Stradal, New York Times bestselling author of Kitchens of the Great Midwest and The Lager Queen of Minnesota

"In Big Friendship, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman save their friendship - and maybe even yours"
— SHONDALAND

"Netflix, we’re ready for the movie adaptation."
— Glamour

"Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman are the patron saints of friendship."
—Bustle

"Big Friendship is an anatomy of the way one particular friendship works, but it is also an argument for taking all amicable relationships more seriously, for understanding them in the terms we usually reserve for romance (the authors share their “meet cute” and discuss the “spark” and “chemistry” between them), and for appreciating the sometimes difficult and time-consuming work it takes to maintain these friendships.”
— Vogue

"Brilliant and honest."
— Katie Couric

"A cozy, earnest read...Big Friendship is unfailingly warm. Writing with the crystalline hindsight of friends who learned the hard way, Sow and Friedman reveal the hidden origins of the schisms they paid good money for a therapist to help them heal. After reading this book, their readers might not have to."
—Slate

“A deeply funny and immensely heartfelt look into what makes a friendship last despite time, distance, trials and major life changes."
—Elle

About the Author

Aminatou Sow is a writer, interviewer, and cultural commentator. She is a frequent public speaker whose talks and interviews lead to candid conversations about ambition, money, and power. Aminatou lives in Brooklyn.

Ann Friedman is a journalist, essayist, and media entrepreneur. She is a contributing editor to The Gentlewoman. Every Friday, she sends a popular email newsletter. Ann lives in Los Angeles.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Simon & Schuster (July 6, 2021)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 272 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1982111917
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1982111915
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 7.7 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.68 x 8.38 inches

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Betsy Mandel-Carley

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Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 26, 2021

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I gave this book four stars because I believe that focusing on the importance of friendship as an essential piece of women’s lives and being as impacting as family or marriage is absolutely necessary to understand women. As a recently retired psychotherapist of 52 years, I am very aware of the psychological impact of female friendship and initiated a few sessions with female friend of female client a few times. There was surprise at suggestion, followed by gratitude after these experiences.
Yes this book is very personal and yes the authors specific experiences aren’t universal but the energy and investment described is so important.
Women are usually very relational beings and this book supports our need to value, understand, and find ways of supporting that…whether we are living in present digital age or understanding friendships even in pre computer days.

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Elena Burke

Great book, easy read!

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I bought this book because, yes, I'm a fan of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast. I bought the book and then it sat on my shelf for a few months. I recently chose it for my book club to read. I went in and started reading some of the reviews, here on Amazon and then on Goodreads. For a second, I thought that maybe I had made a mistake after reading what some reviewers said. I am so glad I didn't let it stop me. The book was really great, and not just because I'm a fan of their podcast. It is well-written and thoughtful. It was obvious to me that some of the reviewers never finished the book because if they had, some of the things they didn't like or thought weren't resolved, were clearly dealt with by the end. I wasn't left feeling like I was missing information at all. The book is written as a memoir more than a social science read- so they do use their own Big Friendship as the foundation and then discuss different ideas they researched on the topic of friendship as it applies to their personal experience. If you're looking for a more scientific or research approach, this might not be what you're looking for. It is also not a political essay or anything like that. Yes, people like AOC and Ilhan Omar are mentioned, but in the context of Shine Theory. That's it. Yes, they most definitely hold progressive political views, but the book isn't about that. The conservative reader can read this and look at the topic at face value and be ok. If you're offended by the mere mention of anything liberal or progressive, then maybe you can't handle it??? I'm only bringing this up because I saw some pretty ugly comments in other reviews on the topic of their politics and I based on those I was expecting something different than what I found.

At the end of the day, this book was so beautiful. I loved it. It made me think about myself in friendships in a new way. It made me think about the people I love and how I want to be there for them. How life has gotten in the way of some friendships and I wonder if we can bring them back in a new way that works better once you're older and have a family of your own. I highly recommend this book and I hope you decide to take a chance on it.

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Maree LaRue

I had to stop myself from annotating the whole wonderful book

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 10, 2021

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I was first introduced to this book and these amazing women on the 7/28/2020 ep of Sam Sanders' NPR podcast "It's Been a Minute". Since I'm already listening to another friendship podcast ("Best Friends With Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata"), this book seemed like my best starting point.

This book is funny, insightful, well-researched, thoughtful and incredibly needed. As they iterate time and again: friendship is valuable but not valued. Especially as people lead busier lives, spend more time online and are married later (if at all), friendships deserve a stronger focus and support.

I have old friends, interracial friends, make friends, long-distance friends (and combos!) so I identified with so many of the triumphs and struggles depicted here. I highlighted sections because I want to be a better friend--and you should too!

This book is lightly political (they're unapologetic feminists), not graphic (a few medical descriptions), and very emotional. Everyone can learn something. But take your time, this is important.

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Anna C.

Different than Expected

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on June 22, 2023

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I do not listen to “Call Your Girlfriend” and was not familiar with Ann or Aminatou prior to reading this & to be blunt I did not enjoy it.

I was expecting a Malcom Gladwell style book about the importance of friendship / how to keep it. Instead it was more of a history of the authors’ friendship with a handful of facts sprinkled in.

MC Book Club. Would not recommend.

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Zoe_Milo

Love the examination of friendship as an institution that is as important as family/marriage

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on August 26, 2020

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This book was lovely - Aminatou and Ann use their own story to examine friendship, its sidelined role in our current society, and its continued importance as one of the fundamental components of a life. I read this book in a day, and will keep it - I generally sell books after reading due to limited space - so I can revisit over and over.

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Haley Majus

Not for me

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on May 9, 2023

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The authors make some interesting observations, but it was not written in a way that will suck you into their story. I found myself really wishing they had alternated writing chapters or sections in the first person. Just not for me.

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Amy E Spears

I loved reading about friendship, which is not something written about enough.

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on August 22, 2020

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Love love loved this book! I felt like they were writing about my life. And the fact that they were writing about friendship as a central tenant of life was a new thing I have not found before. I can’t recommend this book highly enough.

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Heidi Carrion

Though provoking read

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 18, 2020

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I really enjoyed this book & found it to be a bit provocative for my personal relationships. Loved how they profiled their ups and downs and the work it required-- definitely something not really talked about very often for friendships!

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A Poignant reflection on the Power of Friendships and the Labour Needed to Sustain Them

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on April 2, 2022

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A meaningful contribution to the growing body of work on the vital meaning of the social relationships we call "friendship"

Jen Kozak

So far so good

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on August 23, 2020

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Arrived in good condition but the pages are the rough stock. Other than that I look forward to reading this book!

Molade Osibodu

A Necessary Read!

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on July 16, 2020

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Immensely grateful that this book exists! We simply do not talk enough about Big Friendships and so many, like me, flounder when our friendships are failing but we don’t want to let go and need a blueprint. Thank you for writing this Aminatou and Ann.

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Alicia Tesan

Cute!

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on October 4, 2020

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Very cute book!

shannon mcFadyen

An amazing read

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on August 6, 2020

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They wrote this book so everyone could relate. Thank you so much!

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