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Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar Paperback – October 11, 2011
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— New Spirit Journal
Ahlers’s book won't bore you with psychological jargon and dry theory. It's fun to read and filled with coaching, affirmations, inspiring quotations, and stories, yet her understanding and insight are deep and can take you by surprise.”
— Spirituality & Health
A crucial message for women to stop being so hard on themselves. The tools and exercises in this book are transformational, and Amy Ahlers’s insight, humor, and enthusiasm are infectious.”
Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Love for No Reason
Stop everything you are doing you have to read this book! This is the book that you pass on to your closest girlfriend or daughter when she needs to be reminded of her greatness.”
Lisa Nichols, author of No Matter What!
This timely book will transform your fear-based illusions into miracles and reconnect you with your loving truth. With Amy as your guide, you are destined to awaken your Inner Superstar!”
Gabrielle Bernstein, author of Add More ~ing to Your Life and Spirit Junkie
Ahlers is a cheerleader. What makes this a valuable book is that she backs her cheerleading up with viable, easy-to-implement techniques that can actually change people’s sense of well-being.”
Anna Jedrziewski, New Age Retailer
Packed full of real truth and wisdom. I highly recommend this book for any woman who just wants to be happy.”
Kristine Carlson, author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Women
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Top Customer Reviews
I am a skeptic. I always look at new self-help books out of the corner of one eye--so when I say that Amy Ahlers gave me my own truth, you know it's coming from a totally sincere place. I didn't even KNOW I was lying to myself. This book is so simple, really--it just lays out the crap we say to ourselves, mostly without even thinking, and gives us a way to not only reframe it, but take action. This is not your run of the mill "you are doing everything wrong and I'm just the expert to fix you" book. NO WAY. This is about joining a movement of truth-telling superstars who will not take any more self-torture. Period. I learned something from Amy that I cannot un-learn: how to hear through my bull crap and tell the truth. This is going to be my go-to gift for friends and clients this year.
I am not much of a self-help reader. In fact, I am a huge skeptic of most of this sort of thing. (Nor, by the way, am I a friend. I don't know the author personally.) But then, Amy Ahlers is not your average self-help writer. To be honest, no one is more surprised than I am at my own response here. The prose is clear and concise, the suggestions and advice filled with compassion and delivered with a refreshing directness, and the stories are real-world.
In my experience, each of these lies and the way Amy Ahlers presents them provides, if one chooses, an invitation to a much deeper soul-searching meditation. And the simplicity is part of the greatness here. All really good spiritual teachers, coaches and therapists know the value of not bogging someone down in quicksand. They know the value of repetition. And of mirroring one's own wisdom. The author does all that and more, in a way that feels both simple ("Oh, of course, right! That makes sense!") yet is nonetheless deep. We resonate the most with those who strike us as having garnered that wisdom because they have traveled the path.Read more ›
Written by a women coach, Big Lies... offers a concise examination of fifty-nine self-lies, limiting beliefs and distorted views of your female self, which deal with your worth, your body, self-care, success, money, love, relationships, authenticity, and your spirit. The message is see them as lies, because they are in their most part, and do not use to justify your situation, your misery or your empty life.
Examples of big fat lies are: I am old, I cannot do x, I have to please everybody to be liked, money is bad, it is OK to live beyond your means, I have to fake who I am to get a man, love is sacrificing yourself, better be polite than authentic, grieving for quite a while is wrong, and so on.
Many of these beliefs could be shared by many men, as well, and some of them are very obvious. Others are not that obvious, and are they are the ones that I like the most, because they are not socially popular or accepted and separate hay from grain. Even the obvious ones are important to be reminded of because women spend tons of money on "improving" themselves, meaning increasing the size of their boobs, cutting and modifying pieces of their body instead of focussing on inner and intellectual growth.
I found some of the items in the section on spirituality redundant, as not every single woman is religious or spiritual, or even believes in God and that does not turn them into a faulty unhappy person. There are many examples of the contrary.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
It like the way the author relates they own experience with our Inner talks. I find it very impressive to see that many people experience the same situations, and that we are not... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Cristina
They are big and fat, and I'm sure we all tell ourselves them! Good to know and keep in mind.Published 10 months ago by Amazon Customer
Easy to read in quick bites for busy women needing RIGHT NOW! encouragement, Amy Ahlers is the world's BEST FRIEND and CHEERLEADER! when life is getting you down.Published 10 months ago by S. Thompson
Loved the list format of this book - very easy to read. However, giving only 3 stars because I feel the book lacked any real content vs. someone offering advice. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Jenn
Great book. Great ideas to apply. Really is informative in an easy to read format.Published 21 months ago by Janet
A Brave book that rewires all the negative effects of the junk from you, friends, family, media, and the mirror. A great esteem boost without preaching.Published 22 months ago by Lesli Hattaway
I'm not so big on Affirmations these days but otherwise, I likely would have given this book the full 5 stars. Read morePublished 23 months ago by Amazon Customer