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Lovely best-girlfriend's-very-true-advice sort of book
on June 25, 2015
If you are a woman (sorry Barbie it is not you) you have told yourself one of these lies at a certain moment in your life and by doing so you have self-sabotaged yourself successfully. Congratulations, you feel miserable. No prize, lady.
Written by a women coach, Big Lies... offers a concise examination of fifty-nine self-lies, limiting beliefs and distorted views of your female self, which deal with your worth, your body, self-care, success, money, love, relationships, authenticity, and your spirit. The message is see them as lies, because they are in their most part, and do not use to justify your situation, your misery or your empty life.
Examples of big fat lies are: I am old, I cannot do x, I have to please everybody to be liked, money is bad, it is OK to live beyond your means, I have to fake who I am to get a man, love is sacrificing yourself, better be polite than authentic, grieving for quite a while is wrong, and so on.
Many of these beliefs could be shared by many men, as well, and some of them are very obvious. Others are not that obvious, and are they are the ones that I like the most, because they are not socially popular or accepted and separate hay from grain. Even the obvious ones are important to be reminded of because women spend tons of money on "improving" themselves, meaning increasing the size of their boobs, cutting and modifying pieces of their body instead of focussing on inner and intellectual growth.
I found some of the items in the section on spirituality redundant, as not every single woman is religious or spiritual, or even believes in God and that does not turn them into a faulty unhappy person. There are many examples of the contrary. Ethics are always sounder to me, they work with every religion and produce better human beings. I have found too many people reading the bible daily and preaching high morals to me, and, at the same time, behaving totally unethically towards me.
The book is easy to read, and a quick read as well, as every single big fat lie has a mini chapter devoted to it and can be read while commuting for example.
This is a sound book, but this is not a Psychology essay and the author is not a psychologist. An entertaining heart-warming good-hearted read overall.