Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Other Sellers on Amazon
+ $3.99 shipping
+ $3.99 shipping
+ $3.99 shipping
A Bittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents--and Ourselves Paperback – May 1, 2012
|New from||Used from|
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
“Unique and lovely. . . . How wonderful to have [Gross’s] mix of sage advice, pithy insights and practical discoveries at hand.” —Abraham Verghese, author of Cutting for Stone
“Nothing can fully prepare you for the overwhelming experience of caring for your elderly parents, but Jane Gross’s new book, A Bittersweet Season, comes awfully close . . . Gross is an incisive critic of our systems and institutions.” —The Seattle Times
“A forthright story and trenchant advice. . . . Intimate and affecting.” —The New York Times Book Review
“A smart and highly detailed book about navigating the complex eldercare system as it related to healthcare, insurance and end of life. . . . The kind of book social workers might suggest to the family who craves more perspective about the logistical issues mentioned above. . . . Readers will find they are engaged by how much they learn in reading Gross’s account.” —Psychology Today
"Hugely informative, and a gripping read." —Betty Rollin, author of Last Wish
“A Bittersweet Season is sure to become required reading for anyone with an elderly parent who depends on long-term care. It's also a worthwhile read for anyone who is interested in America's health care system as it braces for the demands posed by demographic changes that include a sharp rise in the group now termed the "old old." —The Huffington Post
“An invaluable guide. . . . Excellent. . . . . Jane Gross has taken her own painful experiences and worked hard to give needed help to us all.” —Commonweal Magazine
"With great insight and empathy, Jane Gross guides us through one of the most difficult of all life transitions—the decline and death of our parents. Not only does she provide a wonderfully helpful guide for how and what to do, and when. She also enables us to understand what our parents need, and what we ourselves need, during this passage.” —Robert B. Reich, author of Aftershock
“This is tough stuff, and Gross writes movingly about the toll it takes on her and other caregivers. . . . She’s serious about documenting the often hidden workload borne by middle-aged daughters and sons.” —The Boston Globe
“A Bittersweet Season deals with a sobering topic. But the narrative is so lively and informative that readers will come away feeling more prepared than pessimistic . . . An intelligent guide to handling the onset of old age with sagacity and sensitivity.” —BookPage
“This book is an invaluable and comprehensive primer on what most Americans will face soon. Its honest and loving message is to prepare yourself now.” —Jeff Madrick, author of Age of Greed
“Readers may pick up this very well-written book to learn about taking care of their own ailing parents, but will soon realize that it’s also a wake-up call to become educated in order to make informed decisions about their own inevitable aging.” —The New York Jewish Week
“A Bittersweet Season is a brave and compelling book by a masterful storyteller.” —Carol Levine, director, Families and Health Care Project, United Hospital Fund
About the Author
Jane Gross was a reporter for Sports Illustrated and Newsday before joining The New York Times in 1978. Her twenty-nine-year tenure there included national assignments as well as coverage of aging. In 2008, she launched a blog for the Times called The New Old Age, to which she still contributes. She has taught journalism at the University of California, Berkeley, and at Columbia University, and was the recipient of a John S. Knight Fellowship. She lives in Westchester County, New York.
Browse award-winning titles. See more
If you are a seller for this product, would you like to suggest updates through seller support?
Top Customer Reviews
Why aren't people reading this book? A book on somewhat the same topic by Susan Jacoby (Never Say Die) seems to be getting a lot more press, and isn't nearly as good (Jacoby is still so obviously grieving, and so furious, that she's shrill and depressing). Gross, on the other hand, manages to have a measured tone most of the time, while being forthright about the times when caregiving for her mother is frustrating, enraging, sad, but also growth inducing.
One reviewed complained there are "too many details" about Ms. Gross's own experiences. The reader is "too busy" to wade through these.
Well, the reader has purchased the wrong book.
This is a memoir, not a nuts and bolts guide to elder care (I believe AARP has a publication that might fit that bill). What this book does is bring to life the challenges of caring for a loved one who lives a long life and then slowly declines, incrementally, depressingly, and the toll it takes on the elder as well as the caregivers.
Sooner or later it's likely we all face this - either we will be required to orchestrate (or directly provide, or both) care for elders in our lives, and/or we will ourselves have to accept such care (and those of us without much family can "look forward" to these days with real anxiety).
It's an important book; it's a well written book (I can scarcely put it down). It's an informative book. And it's an emotionally touching book.
I have been reading Ms. Gross's New Old Age Blog since its inception. She left it after a couple of years to write this book.
I continue reading the blog, although it was BEST in its early years when Ms. Gross wrote all the entries. Even so, I commend the blog because the comments to blog entries are a wealth of information.
Jane Gross offers a comprehensive look at how to age well using her 3-year experience with her mother’s decline. It’s a cautionary tale, but if handled right, a hopeful one, and, she reminds us, one that is about to become more common as baby boomers – some 60 million of them – age.
She builds her elder care lessons around her mother’s story, expertly weaving in Medicare and Medicaid definitions, medical information, along with common sense advice like “stay out of the emergency rooms to the extent possible.” Her book is not a social or political statement on elder care – Gross acknowledges her upper middle-class status allowed her to access services and resources for her mother in a way the poor or abandoned can’t.
In essence, that is the book: that the biggest advantage in growing old is not only having information, but the power to act on it. And the strength to do that comes from a family committed to their elder’s well being. If you already have that, you’re halfway home. To get all the way home, read this book as a guide to logistical next steps.